A Brief Statement from The Missing

That never occurred to me. Would it serve a troll's purpose? I'd think the trolls would want to drag out their trollhood forever -- to see and be seen.

Anyway, my grandmother used to say of nuisances, "They should live and be well." I'm pretty much in favor of ignoring them from the moment they show their colors. I don't like to waste my time.

I didn't become active until after I had VSG surgery 10/16. My hope for joining this group was to feel like I belong and to be able to share with others the ups and downs that go along with having bariatric surgery. From the get go I could tell that you, Grimm, were really looked up to and respected by so many. I can totally see why, you have a wealth of information to share and have been super successful. Your humor is literally to die for; you crack me up. I shared many of your jokes with my husband, who would laugh with me. You are so blessed to have a huge following; I admire that about you big time. I wanted so bad for you, Gwen or some of the other aforementioned to acknowledge me in a positive manner. You have no idea the power you ALL have on this site. I would have loved having my good behavior rewarded. That would have meant the world to me. Yes, I am super hypersensitive, seriously, and like to feel like I belong and need validation, once in a while. Hat's off to people that don't need validation; the more power to you. It is what I need. Hoping that we can all move forward and share this journey together. When I apologized to Basset I truly meant it. I try not to hold grudges, it only hurts me and my progress in the long run. Lastly, I am soooooo grateful and thankful to my friends that I have met along the way. Can't wait to meet more!!!

If I hurt anyone else I am deeply sorry. I am going to try to treat everyone respectfully and with the dignity that they deserve.

I actually do pray for people that have hurt me, an idea from a therapist I was working with pre-surgery. And, know I am not super religious but trying to be more spiritual. It helps me.

Happy you are back. I know I probably have a "stale ***" and no, Gwen, my sore throat wasn't caused by what you thought it was. I didn't have strep. Just super sick. LOL If I am never validated again on this site, I am ok with it because I spoke my truth. I am never alone.

One last thought, I read some where that your group took on the "hag" name because someone was offended by something someone said and that person called you, "hags." I don't think it is appropriate to make fun of someone in return. It's awesome you are all friends and a tight knit group. Happy for you all.

Peace!

My dad died in April 2016. I spent the next 4 months helping my mom get their home of 30+ years ready for sale and her relocated to a CCRC. Then we had the memorial service and I went straight into life as a full time college student dealing with grief, trying to change the world post-Trump, diagnosis of binge eating disorder, and figuring out how to survive. I don't acknowledge much of anyone these days. I'm a ****ty person and a ****ty friend even to the people in my local life. So, for what it's worth, it's not just you. I exist in my own little self-absorbed bubble most days.

Gwen, You are NOT a ****ty person. Your comment here is a good reminder (to those who want to read intent into every response) that we all have lives outside of OH. Life does influence us and sometimes it gets carried over to these boards. Before intent is read into a post, maybe it would be a good idea to realize that you don't know what the "offending poster" is living through.

Those of us who have been here day in and day out, answering questions, and paying it forward, may not always come across the way we intended. Sometimes the person reading the posts might be sensitive and take advice the wrong way. We vets would not be here if we did not want everyone to succeed. Sometimes the truth is painful, but necessary. It's never delivered with malicious intent.

A word of caution to those who block anyone who disagrees with them. When I was new to OH, I labeled a lot of vets as "bullies". Those same "bullies" were the first to run to my aid when I needed them. Now they are some of my closest friends on OH. I don't block anyone. I feel that I can not grow and learn if I surround myself with only those who agree with me and validate my opinion. I feel I can learn even from those that I don't particularly like. That person you blocked may be the only person with the answer you are searching for.

^^^^^ This Exactly!

I love this!!!

Gwen you're not a ****ty person. It's ok to back off & take care of you & yours. A lot of people live in a bubble, for some that's the only way they can live. At least you come out of your bubble when you're strong enough & interact with the rest of us.

I hope some get your courage & strength to live outside their bubble world.

Isn't this gaslighting? You're not responsible for other people's feelings, Gwen. It's the internet for goodness sake!

This is a prime example of instigating and then editing and/or blocking to make those *****spond look like asses, while the original instigator gets to change their history and squeal how mean everyone is to them!

Don't let this person rent space in your head.

I honestly don't even know who Soho is, so I was surprised to be called out in their post.