Does everyone tell their coworkers that you had surgery?

greymare
on 2/26/17 7:05 pm

Should I tell everyone I had WLS, (After the surgery)?  I'm embarrassed and ashamed that I let myself gain so much weight.  Would it be bad if I didn't tell everyone?

ChristineB
on 2/26/17 7:47 pm - Western 'Burbs Chgo, IL

Did not tell anyone until well after I started loosing weight

 

 
Open RNY May 7
260/155/140 




 

skinny_gigi
on 2/26/17 7:57 pm

Noooo it's not bad! it's your business! you don't owe anyone any explanation about why you've gain weight or why you've decided to take the step to get healthy again.  Share if you want to but you owe it to no one.

RNY March 1, 2017 with Dr. Reed.

Gwen M.
on 2/26/17 8:05 pm, edited 2/26/17 12:05 pm
VSG on 03/13/14

I had surgery in March and I told everyone in late July of that year.  I consider my WLS to be "public information" at this point.  I'm almost 3 years post-op and it rarely comes up in conversation now, but I am completely open about it when it does.  

VSG with Dr. Salameh - 3/13/2014
Diagnosed with Binge Eating Disorder and started Vyvanse - 7/22/2016
Reconstructive Surgeries with Dr. Michaels - 6/5/2017 (LBL & brachioplasty), 8/14/2017 (UBL & mastopexy), 11/6/2017 (medial leg lift)

Age 42 Height 5'4" HW 319 (1/3/2014) SW 293 (3/13/2014) CW 149 (7/16/2017)
Next Goal 145 - normal BMI | Total Weight Lost 170

TrendWeight | Food Blog (sort of functional) | Journal (down for maintenance)

Vinasu
on 2/26/17 8:54 pm
RNY on 08/10/16

I told no one at all. I have a sedentary job and was back in my office five days after surgery. I only took two days off and worked from home on Friday.

I didn't tell them about my hemorrhoids, either. No one but my spouse and my medical care team has a right to know about my health.

Everyone sees me eating healthy foods in small portions and working out, so they naturally assume that's the entire story. I am a private person in a cut-throat field where appearance is highly valued. Believe me, I had no desire to share, and they didn't earn my trust.

You don't owe your coworkers anything except pulling your weight on the job. Everything else is up to your discretion.

 

HW: 250+ SW:215 (W leaving hospital: 224!)

CW: 138; DR GW: 166; MY GW: 130

M1: -20, M2: -8, M3: -14, M4: -11, M5: -8, M6: -5 M7: -7 M8: in progress

(deactivated member)
on 2/26/17 9:22 pm

I told no one except a single friend who visited me in the hospital and drove me home. Not even my family!

i did and do tell people I had hiatal hernia surgery ( not even a lie because it was part of my gastric bypass when it becomes obvious I have to eat slowly or very little. No one questions me. 

JTomo08
on 2/27/17 12:38 am
VSG on 06/29/16

I told management that I was having it done because they wanted to know why I needed three weeks off for recovery. Otherwise I only tell people if they ask.

pr31
on 2/27/17 4:42 am

It's a very personal decision.  No one needs to know if you don't want them to.

Surgery Date June 3, 2016

HW: 329 W at first consult 290. SW 238, LW 128, CW 139

Erin T.
on 2/27/17 5:02 am
VSG on 01/17/17

As others have said, it's a personal decision. I told co-workers once I had my surgery scheduled (which was about 2 weeks in advance). I have 8 people reporting to me and they care about my well-being and would have wondered. 

VSG: 1/17/17

5'7" HW: 283 SW: 229 CW: 135-140 GW: 145

Pre-op: 53 M1: 22 M2: 12 M3: 12 M4: 8 M5: 10 M6: 11 M7: 5 M8: 6 M9-M13: 15-ish

LBL/BL w/ Fat Transfer 1/29/18

ILoveFlowers
on 2/27/17 6:40 am

I told my boss (duh--I needed off for the surgery and doctor's visits) and she told the entire office.  When I confronted her about it, she said that since I didn't tell her it was "private," she didn't think I cared that everyone knew.  It wasn't cool then and it isn't cool now.  I do get questions about it and I answer truthfully.

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