Serious question but an odd one, I know... NSV? Kind of?
I was a middle school teacher. Specifically, I taught ED (emotionally disturbed -- I had the mean ones) and my autistic angels. With both groups there was a lot of name calling/bullying/emotional abuse, one side was usually the bully, the other was often the victim.
I always taught my kids that words have ZERO meaning unless you give them power. Curse words, hand gestures, rude names ... none of them have power over any of us unless we allow it.
*exit soapbox*
ISO ... New "clique" members. You must be kind, warm, welcoming, honest, intelligent, and have a sense of humor. The words "shamed" or "victim" can not be in your regular vocabulary. Sarcasm is welcome (and wanted!), but cruelty is not. You must not be a coddler or a shamer. All members are free to classify themselves as vets, newbies, grasshoppers or anything else they desire.
I enjoy long walks on the beach, puppies, sunsets and taking off my bra as I pull in the driveway. If you are like minded, you are in!
And remember, we are ALL worthy of love, humor, and dignity.
I started a new group here for my old BP friends and any new friends who have a sense of humor. Link to join:
That is exactly what I am trying to teach my 8 year old.
Band-RNY revision age 50 5'4" HW 260 SW: 244 (bf healthy range 23-35%) bf 23.7% (at 137lbs) cw range 135-138.lbl with butt lift and mastoplexy March 23, 2018...2.5lbs removed.
Pre-op-16lbs (size 18/20...244) M1-16lbs (size 18...228) M2-15.6lbs (size 16/18...212.4) M3-10lbs (size 16..202.4) M4-11.4lbs (size 14...191) M5-10.8lbs (size 12...180.2) M6-8.4 (size 8/10...171.8) M7-6.4 (size 8...165.4 lbs) M8-11.6 (size 6...153.8) M9-5.6 (size 4/6...148.2) M10-5.8 (size 4....142.4) M11-4 (size 2/4...138.4) Surgiversary -1 (size 2/4...137.4) M13-2.6 (size 2/4...134.8) M14 (size 2/4...134.8) M15 (size 2...135) M16 (size 2...131.4) M17 (size 2...135) M18 (size 2...135) M19 (size 2...138) M20 (size 2...135) M21 (size 2...138)
on 2/21/17 6:26 am - WI
Serenity prayer to an alcoholic after she just posted her 11 months of sobriety... what a **** move. By the way... you can CHANGE being FAT. Isn't that why we are all here?
Beginning to see a pattern here.
HW 270 SW 236 GW 160 CW 145 (15 pounds below goal!)
VBG Aug. 7, 1986, Revised to RNY Nov. 18, 2010
on 2/21/17 3:28 pm, edited 2/21/17 7:39 am
If you live by this prayer maybe next time you should make sure you know the right words to it. I guess I can use my freedom of speech. Also.
After I posted this I realized that I was being very immature. I was angry. I have worked very hard to stay sober. It's not always easy. Life can be very stressful. Bad things can happen. So can good.
So if I offended anyone I am truly sorry.
on 2/21/17 3:49 pm
Being in AA has shown me my character flaws. I know when I go to bed at night I am the best person I can be. Not every day. Some days I can be outright mean.
My recovery is the most important thing to me. If I am not sober my life will be over. I have lost too many people to addiction. My very good friend almost lost her daughter this past weekend from an overdose. She isn't even 21 years old yet.
If I did not have WLS I don't think I would have ever became sober. I would have just kept on killing myself with booze and food.
I am so sorry if offended you and I too have many things I need to work on, and God forbid, will never be perfect. I like that we can learn from each other. So sorry for your friend's daughter, it is a horrible disease and comes with so much sadness. I am happy that you are sober and on the right path. I appreciate so much that you wrote and again, I apologize if I offended you in any way. I was NOT making fun of you or trying to put you down. I was defending what lipstick lady said because I didn't find what she said was offensive. She was referring to herself. I refer to myself as fat and would never call anybody else fat. I try to be as honest with myself as possible. Differences in opinions is what makes the world go round. Thank you for talking with me and reaching out. It feels great to be acknowledged by a vet. There have been a couple vets that have been so kind and I so appreciate them. Sending you peace, warmth and hugs. Proud of you.
