Have the pick up lines improved?
I don't like to talk about it -- but the most difficult thing for me having lost weight is being hit on constantly. I don't know why -- not sure if it's something that I do that causes it. It's very difficult for me because I am a rape survivor, and I feel very vulnerable. I wa**** on sometimes when I was heavy, too -- but it is far more often now.
"What you eat in private, you wear in public." --- Kat
I don't like to talk about it -- but the most difficult thing for me having lost weight is being hit on constantly. I don't know why -- not sure if it's something that I do that causes it. It's very difficult for me because I am a rape survivor, and I feel very vulnerable. I wa**** on sometimes when I was heavy, too -- but it is far more often now.
I would like to write about this too. Can we provoke other people? The answer is probably, especially when we know what buttons to push. All too often though, people will use provocation to excuse their own decisions to do something. In the end, we are all responsible 100% for our own behavior. That goes for everyone else on the planet.
No one made me eat Tastykakes. No one made me go through the drive through at McDonalds or Dunkin Donuts. Even though signs are all over the place, and the pressure to consume is enormous, no one did this to me but me.
By the same token, no one forces someone to come on to you in an unwanted fashion, and you have no reason to think that you are doing it. And please don't regard this as a finger wagging lecture, because I do not intend it that way. I write with the intent of encouragement. Mrs. LittleBillJr and I raised three daughters, and this was a big theme in their upbringing. Of course, every now and then I would throw in a "Look what you made me do!" if I made some sort of a mistake. But by that time they were wise to me and just laughed me off.
You are not doing anything to cause it, ever.
