Hey everyone! LipstickLady here!

I think it's more about not wanting to spew drama from another place all over a new group. We can keep it contained and work through the feelings and such without dragging down people who are going "what? Who? Where?"  Trust me, LipstickLady and many of the other defectors have been active supporters of people going through WLS and I foresee that not changing over here. 

I only thought 'Who?' because I am an active poster here and have been for years---never heard of the OP.

We have  a lively, supportive community here with vets (5 years +), journeymen(1-4 years), new folks, and pre-ops, and we welcome new folks. I don't foresee that changing:-).

Hoooooboy!  Not trying to start off on the wrong foot here and I certainly don't hold myself in "high esteem", I am simply finding a place to reunite with some old friends and looking for a place to make new ones.

You don't have to join my group, it's intent is to keep some of us together, but by no means do I intend to post only there.  Unless of course, you'd prefer that I do.  :D

I think its more about that you haven't been on here long or interacted with anyone here, & the people following you seem to just want to hang out with you & not really get to know anybody else here. Its cool if you just want a group of BP'rs to talk **** out with, I just hope that you & the people following you will interact with the rest of us out here.

I see that you welcome other people to your group, but I really want to get to know you first., out here on the main boards. If you start a thread like Gripes I got with Bariatric Pal it opens it up to discussion with everyone & people can get a sense of what all the fuss is.

Meh.  I don't want to drag people into drama they really don't need in their life.  I'd rather not pollute your home space with nonsense.  I started that group out of respect for the people who are established here, not to dismiss them.   Keep the crap contained and all that jazz...

Promise.

Cool, believe you me, you stick around you'll see some drama between certain people on here. Yes there's a bit of drama over here too. 

As my BP friends have heard, I've been on the internet since the AOL dial-up days, and been on every form of bulletin board and messaging board and chat room that there's been in the interim (and moderated my share as well).  Drama is unavoidable where there are people.  How a board is managed around that drama makes the difference.  I had been impressed with BP until this latest row, but am very disappointed with the way this has been handled.  

LipstickLady and several other vets were just incredibly helpful in my early days figuring out if the surgery was right for me, and really getting a handle on what it would mean, and I can't express my gratitude enough to them for being there when I needed exactly what they gave - good no-nonsense information and their experiences.  That same no-nonsense information and advice has now gotten several of them banned without warning or explanation, and that's what I consider unacceptable.

So the TL;DR version is - drama I expect, because people are involved.  I just hope that the mods aren't too heavy-handed over here, and let people work stuff out for themselves (within reason).  :D

Oh goodness the dial up days, I remember those & those disks Aol would send out by the truckload!  Best believe though the boards are moderated to a certain extent, but usually a post has to go way left b4 the mods pull it & mostly because **** got personal. Its cool to have a difference of opinion but when someone outright attacks someone else on a personal level its a whole other story.

Usually the particular post gets reported first & the mods take a look at it. There are posts that violate the terms of service so the op might get moderated, usually I think the op has to violate the tos multiple times b4 they get outright banned.

Like you said it depends on how the mods handle it. I think they do tell the op if their posts are starting to get a little cray cray b4 oh shows them the door.

I don't think the mods are too heavy handed, most of us play nice in the sandbox. If anything some just go on a blocking spree. They can't or won't tolerate certain people, so rather than just ignore them, they block them instead. Ignorance is bliss? 

People are very sensitive here.....and assign intentions to you that you have not intended. I've been told off on a pretty regular basis. Welcome! Hopefully you and your BP friends will bring some lively discussion to OH. I've been here for 10 years....i was around when BP started....but never really went over there.

Good to see your mind reading skills are still so great.  Knowing someone's intentions as well as how others read them is some gift.