Omg !!!! This ****** me off so much ! What r we women... Just support to be used and betrayed? If I could .. I'd kick him  in his ( very small I'm sure ) balls 

the Best revenge ... Take him for every penny the sucker's got : trust me he won't want his secre t sex life played out in court

((())) hugs

I think the best revenge is to have yourself respect back. He can't take that from you. 

There is a man in AA who I talk to on a regular basis. He is about 75. He told me one day that you are a beautiful woman and a woman of dignity.

This is one thing I say to myself every morning. 

Remember you are a woman of dignity. 

I met my first husband when I was 15 and we married when I was 21.  

Long story short -- I caught him in flagrante delicto on our wedding night with the bellhop in our hotel.  Seriously.

I was devastated and too ashamed to tell anyone.  I wanted to believe him that it was the first time (dumb) and that the marriage wasn't a huge mistake (naive).  He made all kinds of promises and we visited a counselor. 

Six wasted years later -- the realization that he was a sex-addict that slept with men and women (preferred men) -- being caught so many times that it was in the double digits -- I finally ended the marriage.  Oh, he slept with my maid of honor (his best friend's wife first, too)...

It sucked.  

I am sorry for your situation.  I am happy you aren't wasting any more of your precious time.  

I am sorry that that happened to you!  I would have been devastated. Completely devastated.

I was at the time.  I remember wandering around Time Square (where we'd gone for our honeymoon) in my nightgown at 11 pm just wringing my hands.  I was too embarrassed to call my mom or dad.  I mean, who is cheated on during their honeymoon!!  LOL.

But, now, it's just an interesting story in my life.  I survived it -- I moved on -- and really don't hold a lot of anger or regret about it.  People are who they are -- and we can either live with and love those people -- or not.  Most of the time, people don't set out to hurt us.  That isn't their intention.  That doesn't mean that we have to accept their **** -- but it does help me to remember that (most of the time), most of us are just getting through life the best that we can.  

I tried to stay true to myself and my values through the divorce.  I didn't discuss my ex-husband's personal life or go out of my way to embarrass him.  I tried not to bad mouth him to but a few of my closest friends/family.  Even today, because he is very active in the community, people will ask me what he did and why we divorced.  I always just say, "we weren't compatible, but I always wish Chris the best in life."  

And I do.  Just not with me in his life.  

On a side note, I have been with my current husband for 19 years.  My ex is still alone.  

You are an amazing woman Kat.

Right back at you!

I love you Berry Sister and I am so glad you are with someone who must be as fabulous and you!  

:::blushing:::

Love you, too!  

Well, he is pretty great -- but no man is as fabulous as me...