Less tolerance for ass-holery?

chassibi
on 10/13/16 2:52 am

I'm not having a good month. Work is a **** show and I've been given more responsibility than ever with the same pay. Husbands truck is in the shop and it's going to cost $1300 when we pick it up Friday. 

Add in PMS and we have a trifecta. So when DH said "nasty" while picking the onions out of his spaghetti last night I lost it. 

Does anyone else have less tolerance than before weight loss? I've lost almost 95 pounds and in many ways it's wonderful. But I have noted I am less patient with BS and more demanding. And that's not coming from him, I'm seeing it in myself. 

Hormone flooding? Am I just destined to be a ***** I have also noticed that I do not handle stress as well right now. I've attributed that to losing one of my coping mechanisms (food). I never thought I was a stress eater, but there it is. Thoughts? 

Consult Weight:276/Surgery Day Weight: 241.6 /Goal Weight: 150

Grim_Traveller
on 10/13/16 4:15 am
RNY on 08/21/12

I went through a stage like that. I have no idea why, but it's probably a combination of a whole bunch of factors. 

Do the best you can, each day. You'll be fine. 

6'3" tall, male.

Highest weight was 475. RNY on 08/21/12. Current weight: 198.

M1 -24; M2 -21; M3 -19; M4 -21; M5 -13; M6 -21; M7 -10; M8 -16; M9 -10; M10 -8; M11 -6; M12 -5.

rocky513
on 10/13/16 5:10 am - WI

Hormone dump and you no longer have your old coping mechanism.... food.  I think many of us get more self confident as we lose weight and speaking out is the way it manifests.  It gets better. Being aware of it is half the battle.

HW 270 SW 236 GW 160 CW 145 (15 pounds below goal!)

VBG Aug. 7, 1986, Revised to RNY Nov. 18, 2010

Ashley in Belgium
on 10/13/16 5:13 am - Belgium
RNY on 08/08/13

I went through a similar phase only it stuck. I think when I was heavy I was a people pleaser to such an extreme that when I became a thin person I stopped pleasing others and wanted to please myself and in doing that it meant setting up boundaries.

and those boundaries often translates into me getting my ***** on, me losing my mind and me being even more frank and cutting than usual  

go with the flow, you'll do fine  

Revision Band to RNY 8/8/13 5'4" HW 252 Lbs / SW 236 Lb / GW 135 lb / CW 127

roxytrim
on 10/13/16 6:42 am, edited 10/12/16 11:43 pm - Cobourg, Canada
VSG on 04/12/13

I totally agree with you Ashley, for many of us we realise early in our journey - aware or not- we must put ourselves first to be successful.  Many of our peeps don't get it and we need to remind them, so it might mean getting snappy until it becomes more second nature to say...hey I need this so please give me your support.

pammieanne
on 10/13/16 8:19 am - OK
RNY on 05/16/16

I love this answer!

Height 5'5" HW 260 SW 251 CW 141.6 (2/27/18)

RNY 5-16-16 Pre-Op 9lbs, M1-18.5lbs, M2-18.1lbs, M3-14.8lbs, M4-10.4lbs, M5-9.2lbs, M6-7lbs, M7-6.2lbs, M8-8.8lbs,M9-7.8lbs, M10-1 lb, M11-.6lbs, M12-4.4lbs

Oxford Comma Hag
on 10/13/16 9:22 am

 I, too, get my ***** on. I heart you.

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Ashley in Belgium
on 10/13/16 9:26 am - Belgium
RNY on 08/08/13

Back at you 

Revision Band to RNY 8/8/13 5'4" HW 252 Lbs / SW 236 Lb / GW 135 lb / CW 127

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Brown

on 10/13/16 6:26 pm - Brooklyn
VSG on 04/25/14

Luv this Get cha ***** on! I keep thinking of that Missy Elliot rap from years ago instead of get cha yo freak on, its now gonna be get cha ***** on! Get cha, get cha, get cha, get cha,get cha ***** on! 

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NYMom222
on 10/18/16 6:14 am
RNY on 07/23/14

"Only it stuck" !!!  I see how other people react to my changes... everyone is worried about how it is going to effect them. Oops sorry this is my life... and now I can do stuff... and maybe I won't be hanging around and the easy target to 'do stuff' for you....

Cynthia 5'11" RNY 7/23/2014

Goal reached 17 months. 220lb Weight Loss
Plastic Surgery Dr. Joseph Michaels - LBL and Hernia Repair 2/29/16, Arm Lift, BL, 5/2/16, Leg Lift 7/25/16

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