Thursday *****fest

People that say they are going to do something and then don't do it! I mean seriously people? Unless you are bleeding to death or on fire I expect you to do it. As far as I'm concerned if you can't promise with 100% truthfulness that you'll do said something then shut the F up! Other people are depending on you. Your only as good as your word and you end up looking like you are not dependable or competent. GRRR!

People who tell you how to raise your kids.  They say "You do it this way." Or "I dont like the way you mother!"

Umm, when you go to school and become an expert pediatrician I may take what you say to heart. But if my research and intuition are telling me something different, I choose to trust doctors and research.

Also STOP bragging about how you raised your children, if I wanted my child to be an emotionally wrecked drug addict, or a snobby mean ***** or a selfish pothead, then Id take your advice.

Also people who brag on fb about being a good mom saying they bust their ass to feed their kid. But you know the truth, that they cant hold a job but they still find money for drugs... and get mad at their family for not giving out money when the child needs something...

Blah.

The mommy wars are the worst, especially when you get hardcore woo-pushers who're absolutely convinced that having your child vaccinated and feeding them non-organic-yes-GMO food basically equals child abuse.

I know right?! If you arent doing things their way it's wrong. Well everyone's ways are different so you cant please everyone lol.

Last week it was Craigslist, this week Ebay.  I sell on there frequently and every now and then I get an idiot.  Yesterday a person bought something for me and complained so I said "No problem, send it back, give me the tracking number and I will refund you plus postage".  

No, that wasn't good enough.  She wanted me to refund her immediately and send it back whenever she felt like, which meant never.  I told her that I would be happy to refund but I wanted the item back because I knew she was lying about it not working.  

Then she threatened to give me negative feedback if I didn't refund her immediately.  I contacted Ebay, who confirmed that I had a right to get a tracking number before refunding and if they did leave negative feedback they would erase it.

I informed the person who then demanded I send them packing material and postage before they sent it back.  Then they wrote back and said they would just keep it and leave the negative feedback.  Then they contacted me again and miraculously the item was healed and now worked fine.  Idiot.

Like the time I made a mistake and sent a small item in an envelope with a regular postage stamp.  The buyer asked for the tracking number and I told them I didn't have one, that I put it in an envelope and mailed it, to save a few bucks.  Well no surprise, he never got it.  Lying asshole.  I was stuck and had to give a full refund because I couldn't prove they got it.  I learned my lesson.  Always get a tracking number.

Also, people who think I am a bank.  It is bad enough my kids, well the younger girls, are alway****ting me up for money.  I can live with that but my next door neighbor has taken to borrowing money nearly every week to hold them over until payday on Friday.  Which means they are short the next week and have to borrow again.  This has been going on for months.  I don't really mind because they always pay it back and they have been good neighbors but they are always borrowing stuff like trash bags, eggs, toilet paper or butter and they always say they will get it back to me and they never do.  Last night they wanted to borrow some aluminum foil and I gave them a roll and they said they would give me the rest back and never did.

And then this person I was befriending hit me up for $20.  They always have a hard luck story and I have already given them a crapton of stuff like food and computer parts to help them out.

I didn't want to give the money to them and I knew I would never get it back but I gave it to them anyway and of course they never paid it back.  I am more angry at myself then them because I knew I shouldn't do it and I did it anyway.  I even gave them an opportunity to do some work for me instead of repaying and of course they didn't do that, either.  So I have written them, and the money off.  And hopefully I will learn to not give money to anyone who doesn't call me Mom.

As long as you are giving and not asking for the items back -they will do that. It is you... Not them...

I had to learn to say "I don't have it". Or " I am out... Or call them and ask for what they borrow back... 

I.e. next time you see "them" ask: "Hey. BTW - the XYZ you borrowed - I need it back - please get that to me ASAP.... Ok? " don't appologize for asking... If they say "I don't have it" look little puzled.. And ask " so ..when will you have it to give it back to me? I really need it..."  They will either avoid you...or next time they come to "borrow something else" ask where the other item is? ... being nice does not mean allowing people to walk all over you... 

See why we need the chat room back :-)