weight regain after gastric bypass?

I wasn't rubbing it her face, more trying to get her to realize that year after year she posts the same thing and gets great advice, but she is refusing to listen to it.  There is no other advice anyone one of us can give her that hasn't already been given.

If you didn't listen to the advice given the last three times why continue to ask the same question over and over.

Reminding someone of previous posts is fine. But you could do that without posting things verbatim as if to say, "hey everybody, look how stupid this person is and read all the dumb things they've said!"

If you want to get through to someone, there are more productive ways to do so.

You realize this is a support site and cutting people off at the knees by dictating what kind of support you want is a fast way to alienate the support from those who have lost their regain by adding water and exercise. 

I, myself don't view exercise as a way to lose weight rather a tool to build muscle to aid in burning calories. You can take the advice from others or pick thru what you want and leave the rest but the strongest way to reverse the regain is to stop putting food on your mouth. Simple. Go back to the basics. 

I think you really need to look at what you are eating. The surgery changes our stomachs not our heads. I am going into year three and it does scare me having regain. 

I know I have to track everything that goes into my mouth. It is easy to drink our calories and not even know it. I had to check myself I was drinking four huge cups of coffee every day with cream and splenda. Well I didn't put  the cream into my fitness pal. I was drinking like 150 calories in my coffee. Not counting it. 

Sometimes we have to hear what we don't want to. I started thinking I could just go on without measuring. Well I ended up eating too much and started gaining. I don't ever want to go back to where I was before WLS.

I think you need to realize you deserve to be happy and healthy. I also think you need to do this for yourself and not because your daughter is graduating high school. Doing something for someone else usually doesn't work. 

Measure everything you are eating. Stick to protein. There is what are you eating on the RNY board that may help you. 

Also you may want to go talk to someone about your depression. It is a horrible disorder. I suffer from major depression and anxiety. 

I would add: track your food. I am pre-op, but every successful weight loss plan I have ever seen has made you track what you eat. I know in one of your old posts you said you were too busy to journal, but I think it is probably essential to most people losing and being mindful and keeping it off.

Best of luck.

I am sorry to hear about your regain and wish you the best of success in your new goal! I only lost 50lbs after my first WLS and was very fortunate to get a revision 4 years ago that finally enabled me to get to my goal weight. I get on the scale every morning and if I am not at goal, I try very hard to avoid treats that day! I keep reading other peoples stories too, to remind me how important it is to stay on track. Sometimes our size is not only up to us. There are other factors like environment, work situation, stress level, etc. You can only do what you can. Just do the best you can every day. If you know of something that worked for you in the past, try it again! If what you are doing is not working, try something else.

Good luck!!

Dear Tammyn

i have gained 40 lbs back after my RNY and my acid reflux is running rampant. Looking into a revision-would you do it again? Was it rough? I'm handicapped and can't really exercise but need to get back on track so my acid doesn't eat me alive lol.

hearing you have had success is promising. Did you do all the classes and visits before the revision?

I regained about 55-60. I have gotten about 40 of it off since september. Back to basics and being protein forward. I had also started to drink with my meals turn everything into a slider food, leaving me hungry.

Check that you are following the program

cut out sugar and refined carbs

watch drinking too close to eating.

If you think you are feeling hungry, you may have an ulcer. the burn from that can sometimes mimic hunger.

Good luck!

I regained 50-60 pounds despite staying under 1200 calories a day, and YES, that included non dairy creamer in my coffee and a breath mint if I needed one. 
I swear that our bodies are just different, and despite the mean and uncalled for comments here, sometimes it's really NOT your fault, and my doctor, who has monitored me for over 10 years, agrees. 

Yes, it's important to eat higher protein and less carbs, but if that were totally true, then skinny people who wolf down a super-sized pizza and chase it with a six pack of Mountain Dew (or a keg of beer) would be a big as whales. That's just not the way it is. I've sat in restaurants and watched the waiter carry a delicious dessert and drop it down right in front of a skinny person, and watched them scarf it down with a milkshake after having watched them eat a greasy burger and fries. Or a footlong hot dog loaded with chili and cheese. I can eat about 1/2 a hot dog WITHOUT the bun, and a small salad. That's fine with me.  What is not fine is that I'm still fighting weight gain.

After 10 years I have a 1 cup capacity in my stomach. Yet I gained back about 1/3 of what I lost simply because I can eat a cup instead of a tablespoon or two like I did when I first had the surgery. We were not meant to live on a tablespoon of food 3 times a day for the rest of our lives. Nor are we meant to live without fruit (carbs) or grains (carbs) or fats. 

Sometimes medicines (ESPECIALLY anti-depressants) cause weight gain, sometimes it's metabolism, sometimes it's hypothyroidism, sometimes it's an imbalance of hormones, and then sometimes it's a vitamin deficiency causing you to crave foods that you eat in excess. Chocolate is a huge craving for me, and usually I find out that I'm deficient in magnesium. Many times it's nuts, a grain cereal, or trail mix that I am craving, but the calories in trail mix or a muselix cereal is outrageous. So I don't eat it and double up on vitamins, and drink a protein shake.

And for me, cardio exercise is almost impossible. I have a back injury and am not able to walk far without stopping, and definitely can not run or jump, or hike, or climb anything. Stairs are excruciatingly painful so I avoid them, but I stay active in short bursts, such as house cleaning, vacuuming, dusting, making beds, mopping the floors, and I sit down when I get too tired. I am also self employed so I work when I want and rest when I need to. I don't make a lot of money but it keeps me busy.

Here's the interesting part of this whole post... SWIMMING. I can swim for HOURS, pain free (except muscle aches) and I joined a public pool and swim 3 times a week for 3-4 hours a day. I work with water weights, and am building muscles I never knew I had. I still have not lost a single pound of the 50 I gained back, but I feel so much better. 

So only YOU know if you are doing all you can, and if you ARE, then really, that's all you can do. We are more than just a size or a number. Enjoy your life and live to be healthy, buy yourself the cutest coolest clothes you can find, and don't sweat the other stuff. And believe me, it may NOT be your fault, but you will have to deal with it.