Dying a year out? Why?

Please correct me if I am wrong, but Jessica O. died of Stage 3 Breast cancer. The WLS surgery had nothing to do with her cancer. Also, the first doctor who did her surgery nicked the stomach which caused her a lot of complications. Randi

Amy, This is a very personal decision for each of us. I just wanted to comment when you said you are 250 and a lightweight and if you weighed 300+ it would be an easier decision... I had some of the same feelings. I'm 5'4" and was 220 when I had my surgery. But I was only getting heavier. I didn't want to wait until I was 300 pounds. I was already miserable. For me, that was the best decision I ever made. I've lost 53 pounds in a little over three months and feel great. There are complications, including death, with any surgery. Sometimes people die at the dentists office!! Just weigh your options and God bless you--whatever you decide. Best wishes Kina 220/167/130

Hiya Amy. I am one that will tell ya straight up front it is a very dangerous surgery. I have had no comps other then a stricture but was willing to risk all the comps to get a better life. I firmly believe if your surgeon does not go into ALL the risks he/she is not doing her job. That is one reason I picked the surgeon I did. I had read the gone wrong site, read some of Dani H. posts and when I first met my surgeon it was like he was trying to scare me out of surgery the way he went into all the things that could go wrong. He was upfront and honest and thats why I picked him. If you decide to go through with it I wish you the best of luck. Only you can decide what is right for you. Take care,Bill

I am only 2 months our of surgery and so happy. I can do things I have not done in years. get compliments daily now. I've had 3 strictures and did not let it get me down. I got my labs back saturday and am now almost in the normal range. I would do it all over again in a heartbeat! God put us here and will take us when he wants us. I am not a good vitamin taker or good protein taker but my stats are awesome according to my pcp! so I must be doing something right! better than ever before! Good luck to you and your choice. but no regrets here! 2 months out and down 46 pounds and so haaaaapppyyyyy! (SMILE) hugs to ya

Sweety I am not trying to undermine anything you have said. But you had better become a good vitamin take or you will have serious complications. Right now at only two months out your numbers should look fine. But further and further out, after your body feeds off of itself from vitamins deficiencies, you will start having problems. That is how many people have problems...Trust me, I know of several people in person and on the boards that this has happened too. TAKE THOSE VITAMINS!

To be quite honest my biggest fear was my kids or hubby coming home and finding me dead from a heart attack or stroke at the time of my surgery I weighed 330lbs ( I'm only 5'3) at that time my kids were 9yr & 3yr .Also cancer does run in my family so I can honestly say I 'd rather be at a healthy weight to do battle with the big C than be super morbidly obese .As everyone has stated it is a very personal choice ,may you be at peace with yours .Kristy

If you are ambivilent at all, this is not a good time for you (imo). It's a lifetime commitment, as you know, and you really need to want it to work. If you agonize over every little thing afterwards, you'll be totally miserable, and your new life won't be the joyful experience you want and deserve. The surgery isn't going anywhere. If you need more time to make a decision, or alternatively, decide to put it off indefinitely, there's nothing wrong with that. You have to do your best to do what is right for you. I wish you the very best of luck in making your decision, and in your journey.

Amy, I haven't heard this? Do you have the report you can share with me? It's peaked my curiosity. I'm with Ronnie on the dying though. I felt dead before surgery, merely existing and depressed. If I died tomorrow, I've lived the past 9 months and will never regret having WLS. Unfortuately, Jessica O. was one of the percentage of WLS patients that has complications and I pray for her and her family very day....it's a shame and sad what Jessica went through....today she is in a much better place and no longer hurting...May God give peace and comfort to her family and friends. I do feel that research is key to a decision each of us has to make pertaining to surgery. I had many co-morbidities and knew that I would die unless I took measures into my own hands quickly. We are all on this earth for a reason, no matter what we are doing or when we are doing it, when it's our time to leave this earth, God will take us home....whether during surgery, riding in a car, sleeping, or whatever, we know not our time or destination. I'm praying for you, stay positive and make the decision you feel you can live with. Hugs, Dana

I haven't heard this either, but I was a happy person before, and am a happier person now. Big difference is I feel MUCH better physically, having lost 85 pounds. I no longer hurt every time I get up and start to walk. I no longer have to take pain pills when I have gone dancing with my husband, or after having been on my feet for a while....I no longer take 6 medicines ranging from cholesterol lowering meds to blood pressure lowering meds to arthritis med to anti-depressants...it is all good! Hugs, April

I am 38 days out and have had no problems. I was 250 when i started and down to 223 now as of today. I am 43 and have no health issues. This subject peaked my interest also. Really what I would like to say is the media, papers, news always seem to find the people that dont succeed with this surgery instead of the ones that do. I feel that the success out weighs the failures if looked upon. Do what you think in your heart is right. You will be ok. Denise 250/223/150