HELP! Cold feet...

Jeanette..I know what you are saying. My date is Dec. 2 and I had this conversation with my DH this weekend. Thanks to everyone for the encouraging words and knowledge. I kow at some point in time we all go through this. Nik

Jeanette, Like you said, thoughts like these are normal. Getting those feelings out and sharing them with others that have had those SAME thoughts is a healthy way of dealing with them. Some times the feelings can get to be a little overwhelming. Maybe if you tried changing your perspective and looking at the situation from a different point of view... Try and remember why you are having the surgery. If you're like most of us, you're probably having surgery because obesity is killing you. All said, you could choose not to have the surgery and continue dealing with the obesity from this side. The truth is, though, your surgery is most likely medically necessary. Yes, there are risks, but they are counter-balanced by the rewards. Try focusing on the rewards part of it; Better health, feeling much better, doing things you only dreamed of doing or were distant memories, shopping for new clothes (one of my personal fav's), etc. The list of rewards is a long one. Compare it to the list of things you'd have if you didn't have surgery. Ask yourself if it's worth the risks to attain the reward. Hope this helps. Hang in there. Brian

Jeanette: Everyone has posted great advice! You are experiencing the same emotions and questions most of us go through. I just had my surgery last Wednesday and it went very well. We all have doubts with the unknown. As with everything, we have to do our research and make the best decision we can based upon the knowledge we've acquired. Not to sound preachy, because I've never been a real religous man, but I've definitely been doing a lot more praying for strength, guidance and the protection of my family. It has given me a lot of peace. In fact, before we left for the hospital, we had a family prayer where I prayed that I was turning all of my worries over to God - and it felt like a weight was suddenly lifted from my shoulders. I won't say I still wasn't a little nervous, but definitely more peaceful. If you are still very nervous the day of surgery, don't be afraid to tell the staff. They can also provide medication while your waiting that will make you feel much more relaxed. Best wishes for a smooth journey! Matt

Jeanette, THis is very normal. Don't focus on the negatives. Your life expectancy is better according to my surgeon because all teh co morbidites that can kill you can improve or be eliminated. I can tell you that I am so much happier & actually ahve a life to enjoy again now. I appreciate every day. Before surgery I couldn't stand to move & was unable to have hip replacement suyrgery because of my size. I now am almost pain free & getting more active. Just going out with m,y husband,doing my own groceries etc is such a joy. I am more active so it will make my life better even if it would be shorter. Best of luck & you will be in my thouights. Pat

Thank goodness someone feels the way I do! My husband is scheduled on December 8th and I go on January 19th. I am in a panic. My worst fear, not waking up from surgery, my husband not waking up from surgery. The advice is wonderful and does give me a little peace! Good luck with your surgery and your the great future you have to look forward to.