Somehow Found Myself Back on OH

Kathy S.
on 1/19/16 11:18 am - InTheBurbs, XX
RNY on 08/29/04 with

I have been here over 10 years 

HW:330 - GW:150 - MW:118-125

RW:190 - CW:130

Haven
on 1/19/16 7:51 pm

I remember you quite well, Kathy.  And I have sorta kept an eye out when I would see you interact with Charlie on FB.  I was terribly sad for you when I read about your husband.  I hope you are doing better every day.  

                           
AnniesSS
on 1/19/16 5:19 pm
RNY on 09/11/12

I'm 3 1/2 years out and don't come to the forums very often. But I'm happy and healthy and that was my goal :)  hope everyone is having a great night!

  Annie  HW 289   SW 257   GW 150
    
Amy R.
on 1/21/16 4:56 pm

I've been here since 2008, but I tend to come around for a while and then drop it to deal with IRL stuff.  I'm working on staying around this time for awhile so that I can help with questions and concerns they way other vets helped me when I was new.

There are several of us that have been here longer than five years but I know they'll be checking in for themselves so I'll not try to list them.

Welcome back.  Are you still happy with your surgery?

Haven
on 1/24/16 5:12 am

Real life stuff --- yeah, that can be a kick in the snot locker at times!  I've had my share of craziness, ups and downs, over the past several years.  A lot of loss on a emotional level and that coincided with a good bit of loss on the weight as well.  I was worried about that at first because I wasn't TRYING to lose weight, even though I wasn't unhappy about shedding the regain either.  It was a mixed up time for sure.  

It's sort of comforting to see that some of the old timers are still around, even if my swiss cheese brain doesn't remember them all.  The up and comers, the pre-ops and the ones that are plodding through the muck need the input of those that have paved the paths before them -- I know I appreciated the voices of wisdom and experience when it was all new to me.  So thank you for the nice welcome!  I appreciate it.  

As for whether or not i'm still happy with my surgery?  The short answer would have to be yes.  I do have some challenges that I deal with that are either directly or indirectly related to having had the surgery but I will accept those as manageable consequences at this point.  I had a starting weight at around 300 pounds and stood 5'7".  I initially lost down to around 120 pounds, had the usual bounce back weight after a couple years and then landed pretty securely at about 135 for quite a long time.  Then I started having a greater amount of regain.  It happened kind of gradually and part of it was because of me getting too lax with the "rules" and forgetting where I had come from.  Part of it was me eating my feelings because I was going through a lot of stress in my marriage.  I got back up to around 185.  

Then I had even MORE stress in my marriage when led to ultimately filing for divorce, had to deal with the loss of three other key people in my life and trying to figure out how I would survive because I was unable to work.  That led to me switching from eating my feelings to not being able to eat much at all.  I lost a significant amount of weight but I don't recommend my "diet".  LOL  

I'm now weighing 108 pounds -- still haven't gotten my divorce yet after nearly three years of fighting in the system.  I am struggling at times but I am finding the ability to see the positives in my life as well.  I've learned an awful lot about myself and i'm finally capable of setting boundaries and adhering to them when needed, compromising on things that don't insult my integrity.  I've had some medical issues but i'm dealing with them and i'm fortunate enough to have good doctors on my side.  I wouldn't be unhappy to put back on a little weight but I suspect when life calms down a bit more and I can lay some of the drama to rest, I should be able to get back to a weight that I feel more comfortable at.  I don't want to let it go too far up and get complacent again but I would love to get back to somewhere around 135 again eventually.  At that weight, I was fitting comfortably in about a six 6 and it's where I felt and looked healthiest.  

Perspective -- it's all about how you see things.  I have struggles but i'm not unhappy.  Life is meant to be lived.  

                           
Mal
on 1/22/16 4:03 am

Hi there!  I had my RNY 04/2010 and recently started coming back to the site.  Ask away, newbies or vets--always happy to help or answer anyone's questions.  I am recovering from back surgery I had 2 weeks ago (Major ouchie!) slowly healing, and trying to stay positive and patient during the healing process (6 weeks) but can't wait until I can go walking again.  Don't like gyms and lost all of my weight just walking outside (got up to 2 1/2 miles a day).  

As an "oldie" lol, I'm happy to be back!

Mallisa (aka, Mal)

 

 

 

 

 

                
Haven
on 1/24/16 5:15 am

Hi, Mal.. back surgery certainly sounds painful.  I haven't experienced it personally but I did watch my ex husband go through it and saw recovery from a pretty close perspective.  I'm sorry that you're dealing with it so close up but I sincerely hope that as you heal, it becomes a positive choice!  Sincere wishes for an uneventful and quick recovery.  :)

                           
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