So frustrated right now! Any suggestions on some good responses or comebacks?

Just say: "thank you, I will have later". Put it away... And go for a walk. 

You can't change people. Some people show love by feeding us. Accept that.You used to be your mom companion in eating.it may take a while for her to accept it is no longer the case. 

Instead of hearing "there. Eat this".. See that as "I love you" smile and give her a hug. 

You have my sympathies. This not what you need the weekend before your surgery. I think others have hit it on the head when they say your parents need to understand the purpose of the liver shrink diet and that this is major surgery you need to be ready for. Enjoy the people that are coming to BBQ the best you can and try and stay as far away from the cooking as you can. I'm sure you are ready to get the surgery over and go back home to heal. Are you going directly home after the surgery? Good luck.

My surgeon wanted me to stay at least a week so my boyfriend is coming into town the day after and we are getting a hotel (thank god!). I figure at least with the BBQ I am bringing my own chicken so I can eat that. I plan on spending most of my time with all my nieces and nephews and socializing with them (-: 

Glad your boyfriend will be there for you after surgery. Nice you can at least eat chicken and are not a full liquid diet before your surgery. That should make it a little easier for you.

I'm sorry you're having this terrible reaction from your parents...I think alot of what they are saying or doing is out of fear for you...I must be so frustrating for you too try to be so diligent on what you need to do for YOU....with that being said keep telling yourself this....FAIL TO PLAN....PLAN TO FAIL......that simple little statement holds a whole lot of power and you can always say that to your parents also....just stand firm and keep your eye on the prize....all the best to you

"Oh, yea you cant eat food". If I don't eat it the food and my mom notices its still there she keeps reminding me about it and that she got it for me."  

So be more forceful and tell her you don't eat crap, then go see what she has in the cupboards that you CAN eat.  Even if it's only a can of soup it's better than that garbage.

Hang in there--surgery is just over the horizon.  

Have you got your post-op supplies all set up?  This is a good time to make sure you are set for success.

You know they love you;  they just tie feeding you to showing love.  Not an uncommon thing in our society.

I do! I filled the fridge with all my sugar free products and various broths. My mom thinks Im crazy but having that stuff in the fridge has actually made it easier for me to stay away from the other not so healthy choices. 

Speaking of the sugar-free stuff--be aware that the sugar alcohols will give you KILLER FARTS post-op.  You might want to get a dog if you don't already have one.  Seriously.

In lieu of a pet, get some Devrom (available online).  It's a fecal deodorant, in chewable tablet form, and while it doesn't stop gas generation, it takes the stink out.  It will definitely help.

Oh, and stock up  on Miralax, stool softeners, and Milk of Magnesia.  You will have constipation and it's best to be prepared.  

So, walkwalkwalk, sipsipsip, chewchewchew.

Hang in there.

One thing I've learned from watching my 600 lb life and seeing my parents in action is that food addiction is real.  My dad, who had surgery in 2011, seems relieved now that his stomach has fully healed and he can eat waaaaay more - so he does.  When I was first starting my process (2014) I remember him saying to me, "This is what you're in for, look at how little I can eat of this turkey dinner." and he was so solemn and depressed over it - now this was 3 years after his surgery.  I said, "Are you kidding?!  That's how I want to feel...I want to feel satisfied with a small amount of food." I'm sorry you seem to be in the same spot -- parents who love us, but who have always tried to show their love through food.  It's such a battle.  I so get it!!!  

That really sucks for your dad. Thanks for sharing. It has actually given me some things to think about for myself.