Birthday Cake?

I think you misunderstood the content of our opinions.  

I am certain that your daughter is healthy and of course, no one is suggesting that she shouldn't have a piece of cake on her birthday or anyone else's.  What we are contesting is the idea that YOU should eat one... whether it's "healthy" cake or not.  

You just had WLS.  You do not need a cake and she doesn't need appeased that you don't.  That you would eat something to make someone else happy at YOUR expense is NOT a good lesson to teach.  That's my opinion.  That's from someone who hasn't had good eating habits in the past, HAS had WLS, DOES have a child near the same age, and HAS been successful at losing 200 lbs.  

I wish you only good things and a happy birthday whatever you choose to do.

The last birthday party I went to, there were enough cupcakes for the people who attended (except me, of course).  That way everyone got their cake but just enough to satisfy the tradition and taste.  And there wasn't any cake to take home.  I had some sugar free pudding.  Find a sugar free cupcake or dessert so you're part of the tradition and still eating as you should.  Lectures on birthdays aren't fun. 

I've managed 11 years without eating birthday cake and noone has cried ...   celebrations and holidays are now about people and the social occasion, it's way more fun than having to worry about the food.

You are the parent, you get to choose whether you eat something or not :-)

I would like to point out that I said upset, not have a cry baby fit and freak out.

I had a friend that invited me to a dinner in her house. She cooked a lot of food. Most of it - I could not eat... She was upset.  So was I..   

Why bother inviting me to dinner if you can't consider my allegirs..  

We are still friends.. She just no longer cooks for me.. 

Why does your daughter even care if you eat a cake or not???? Weird.. 

At 6, she is old enough to understand if you say you are not going to eat cake. If you must giv her a reason, tell her it would make you feel icky.

If she would be upset because she equates food with love, this would be a good time to talk to her about it.

No one has ever cared what I do or don't eat.

Why would this upset your daughter?  Perhaps you could use this as a lesson in letting people make decisions for what they put into their own bodies?  

I admit I always have birthday cake.  It's my birthday and one piece of cake will not make me fat.  It's been 6 birthdays since my surgery and I have had birthday cake every year.  

I find the problem with cake, if I can't always limit myself to a few bites. It can be a teaching opportunity for your daughter. You don't have to say never, but for now...you are still in weight loss mode the answer is no.

Maybe make a cupcake cake, and your cupcake is one from eggface's website. I know I make a simple mug cake with Carbquik on occasion... (1/4 c Carbquik, 1/4 c Sugar Free Torani/Da Vinci syrup of choice and 2 TBSP Cocoa powder. Mix. Optional - add 1 tbsp of SF chocolate chips or chopped chocolate. Microwave 1 1/2 to 2 minutes. )

I won't repeat what has already been said but I agree 100% with most of it.

I will add that I decided last year for my birthday to make a cake (a sugar filled, normal birthday cake) and decorated it and piled candles on it. Then I sat back while my boys sang Happy Birthday to me, "helped" me blow out the candles and then enjoyed watching them enjoy the hell out of eating it.

Because I don't eat cake anymore and this is a given in our home, there was no drama.  I had a wonderful Birthday and they ate the cake.  End of story. No big deal.