Getting Discouraged
The first few weeks ( of excess food addiction withdrawal) are horrible ... then the adventure begins ! The changes you achieve with this amazing tool are really up to you ...I'm usually very grateful..but.
I'm still a fat person trapped in an ( honestly amazing looking ) body .. but I pick the worst boyfriendz and husbands because my selfesteem is so low.. I'm one of the luckiest people on here economically and healthwise but I still think about ending my life often... and I have to wonder ... is THAT why I was fat ? was I depressed and frustrated literally unto DEATH ? Is it because I ALLOWED abuse and can't deal with that fact ?
There are a lot of young grrlz out here ( unfat looking ones at least for now ) who allow worse abuse than I did... porn starz for a month /forever ,,,,, please share Ur thoughts
National suicide prevention hotline: 1 (800) 273-8255
NAMI hotline (National Alliance on Mental Illness): 1 (800) 950-NAMI (6264)
It doesn't matter if you're "amazing looking" or "unfat" or still MO, "economically lucky" or broke as f'ck. Mental illness doesn't discriminate, and there is no shame in seeking help.
Sparklekitty / Julie / Nerdy Little Secret (#42)
Roller derby - cycling - triathlon
VSG 2013, RNY conversion 2019 due to GERD. Trendweight here!
Thank you for posting this, Julie. Suicide is not a joking matter. Anyone who considers ending their life often should seek help immediately. I wonder if OH can somehow intervene and help her.
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Height: 5'-7" HW: 449 SW: 392 GW: 179 CW: 220
We were notified about your post by very concerned board members. We'd like to encourage you to seek out help as soon as possible. Often times feelings like this are temporary, but sometimes someone needs a professional to help them deal with their emotions. We urge you to visit the National Suicide & Crisis website for numbers in your local area of professionals who are trained to help people in crisis.Their website is located here:
http://suicidehotlines.com/national.html
Or call the USA National Suicide Hotlines toll-free 24 hours a day/7 days a week.
1-800-SUICIDE (1-800-784-2433) - or - 1-800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255)
We hope you seek out any help you may need at this pivotal time in your life and let us know you're doing ok. Your fellow ObesityHelp members are worried about you.
Please keep in touch.
Sincerely,
ObesityHelp
Use the search function and look for "three week stall". I started at 375 and in the last three months have lost 62# (even with a stall!) and let me tell you... it is soooooooo worth it! Don't give up and keep following your plan and soon the weight will start to fall off again.
Starting Weight 375 SW 375 Height 5'9"
This stall is completely normal, and I'm a bit surprised your surgeon or nutritionist didn't warn you of it. Many WLS patients stall a few weeks after surgery, and the stall can last up to a few weeks. For me it was 3 weeks and 5 days, then overnight I was down 6 pounds. Do a search for 3 week stall here on the forums and you'll see all sorts of posts. It's important to remember that you just went through major surgery, and it may take a few more weeks at least for your body to normalize.
I know it is frustrating, and a long stall can be very hard mentally - even giving you a bit of buyer's remorse. We didn't gain this weight overnight, and we won't lose it overnight. Stalls will happen, but we just have to follow the plan, keep doing our best and have faith. Just imagine where we will be a year from now!!
Hang in there!
HW: 378 | 1st Consult: 363 | Surgery: 339 | CW: 182
"We all have two lives. The second begins when we realize we only have one."
Thank you so much!! you're so right. I took my years to be the size I was. They did warn about stalls, but nothing specific about when the stalls might be. I guess I thought I would keep going down and down like I was in the beginning. I feel better about it all now and yes I was having "buyers remorse". I need to keep my eye on the prize!!!
