Help!9 years post op and50lbs gained back

Please help! I am post op 9 years and have gained back 50lbs!!!! I am so upset abt it right now. I know most of it is my fault. Past couple of years I got back into old habits, depression caused emotional eating, severe iron def anemia caused exhaustion. ( still getting iron infusions). Realizing my marriage was over caused more depression and now trying to get myself thru a divorce I'm overwhelmed. So it's lead to emotional eating as well. I had a procedure this morning and got weighed and literally felt like I wanted to vomit! Please as anyone else had this problem and how do I kick start the weight loss and get things back the way they were? Thank u!

Livingbwell is best revenge on the ex.. If that can't motivate you - not sure what More you need.

I am 7 years post op and I have great retruction if I follow my plan - dense proteins, avoid carbs.

Meat- fish- eggs + some cooked (steamed) veggies... 4-5 oz and I feel stuffed. Keep doing that. Move... Walking is just enough at the beginning...

But no one can ourun bad diet... So limit what you eat... High proteins +fat... As natural (low process) as you can.

Have you considered OA? I have been going to meetings for several months now. Even though I have my sleeve and am losing weight rapidly...and even though I am so close to my goal...and even though no one would look at me now and think I'm fat (I'm actually looking quite svelt these days), I know that I still have and will always have an eating disorder. Quite simply, I am a food addict. I have admitted that on my own, I am powerless to control my eating. I need help. I need support. And I need to always know that I am an addict, though I may be in recovery. My sleeve has been a Godsend, but I know it won't be enough to maintain myself. This will be a life-long issue for me, and I'm trying to get on top of it now.

I know it sounds like a huge move, but you may want to consider finding a local meeting and seeing what its all about.

Just my 2 cents worth.

I love what HALA said about living well is the best revenge.

Think about how he will react to seeing you in your slim new body.

Make yourself and your health a priority. Download My Fitness Pal and track everything you eat and drink. Wear a fitness tracker and sync it to your computer and smartphone. Eliminate 500 calories a day and your weight will go down one pound a week. Weigh daily and make sure you don't go into weight denial.

By weighing daily you will never again have to go through the misery of being forced on the scale and finding out your weight is higher than you thought.

Give yourself 50 weeks. You still have your tool and that is a huge advantage over people who never had surgery.

You have taken a good first step coming here. Do lots of reading, get your head back into weight loss/control mode. Go back to the basics, protein first etc. When you go to nibble cos you are stressed just think killing yourself slowly with food is not the answer. I tell myself that all the time. As others have said being thin and healthy is great revenge! You are not alone having this problem but you have the tool and can get back on track. You can do it and there is lots of support here.

You have already taken the hardest step by saying enough is enough and now I want to get back on track. Here are some steps I hope will help you. They helped me... Also, be sure and join the Back On Track Together group link in my signature area.

Planning/Preparing

Remember when we were preparing for surgery? How many meetings, classes and such did we attend? We were told the more prepared we were the better our chances were for success. And they were right. Go through the house, car and work place and get rid of trigger foods. Stock up on foods that will keep you on track. I removed every bad carb/sugar temptation and replaced it with lots of protein, veggies, grains and fruits. ??

Journaling

Get back to journaling. This will help you identify when you feel like eating, stress factors and any triggers in your life. Once you identify these factors, this will help you put tools in place to keep you from eating. It became clear I was not taking time for me anymore. I worked my day job and then spent the rest of my time caring for my husband. It was easy to reach for fast, prepackaged food. Since I purged my home I have to eat clean as there are no other options LOL

Use a tool to track you're eating and exercise like Getting Started with Health Tracker. Once I started to track ever bite and drink it became clear why I had gained.

Goals/Rewards

Make a list of goals for yourself. Make them realistic and small. Some of mine were move more, purge all junk from my home, eat more protein.

Food

In general, a long term post-weight loss surgery eating plan includes foods that are high in protein, and low in fat?, calories, and sugar. Important, vitamins and minerals are provided as supplements. (if you had a different surgery adjust this to your food plan).

Water

Water is our Best Friend. I have to say I never went back to pop or any bad drinks, however I was drinking tea like crazy. What is wrong with drinking tea? I was either using sugar or 3 equals and 3 sweet n lows per 32 ounce glass. So I was either pushing to be diabetic or get cancer. I found once I started carrying a bottle of water around 24/7 (yes had one at my bedside) I lost the cravings for the sugar and I KNOW those artificial sweeteners are not good for me. Look I am old and if you add up all the artificial sweeteners I have consumed I am sure I am at the rat in the lab getting cancer threshold.

MOVE!

I can't say enough about how key this was for me. The reason I kept my weight off for almost 10 years was no matter what, I kept moving. If I could not go to the gym I would walk. I loved Zumba, bootcamp workouts, lifting weights. When I stopped, the weight started coming back. So for me I am starting slow to avoid injury by walking and using some of the workouts on my Demand TV. Find something you love to do and it won't feel like a pain in the *** to do daily.

Support

If it's an option "run" don't walk to a support group.

Keep me posted on how you are doing