One Week to Go for Sleeve and chickening out

You need to base the decision on what is right for you.  If you are good at losing weight and maintaining that lose then this surgery my not be for you.  For each person who knows you are thinking of having surgery there will be atleast one horror story they have to tell you.  Take all the stories with a grain of salt.  This is your journey only you can make it what you want.

7 months out and loving my RNY and LIFE

I'm three weeks post of from RNY and I was the same as you.  I could lose but never maintain long term.  I'm so glad I had this.  I'm already feeling better.  You have to do what is best for you, not them.  Follow your heart.  I've seen so many people on here say that they were going to do it years ago but changed their mind, only to end up doing it 4 or 5 or more years down the line and then say they wish they had just done it years ago.  Ultimately the decision is yours.  Follow your heart. 

Why did you tell everyone?  At 55 with a knee replacement and a young child you need to move forward and not look back.  Telling everyone is always a problem.

I wish you the best.  Get it done, you will not regret.

When I told people I told them that I have already made up my mind, researched the crap out of it. I knew all the risks vs benefits. When my friends started to become negative about the surgery I told them I did not want to be talked out of it. One friend immediately said "ok" and said "then I support your decision ". Not everyone will agree. As long as you know you are doing the right thing for yourself than you are. I canceled my first surgery 2 years prior because of the negative comments. 2 years later I regained everything I had lost trying to prove I could do it on my own. I waisted two years!!!!  I am now 6 weeks out and feel great. Of course no hamburgs yet. However looking good feels better than eating a greasy hamburg!!!  

Good luck with your decision!  

LOVE everyone's thoughts but yours really resonates with me.  It is indeed the reason to do it! 

You are doing the right thing!  My surgery weight was a little less than yours but I absolutely NEEDED this surgery in order to maintain my weight.  I'm coming up on my 3rd winter at goal weight and I've been able to wear the same winter clothes each year.  Do you know when the last time that's happened?  NEVER!  I was always going up or down but could never, ever stay the same. Every season I'd always have to buy new clothes because they were either too big or too small (usually too small).  

This surgery gives you the tool to lose AND maintain -- if you're willing to make the other changes needed.  

We go to Disneyland this December and it will be the first time I've ever gone as a normal size adult.  Looking forward to it! 

Wow! I am so happy for you! Have a great time! 

I would steer clear of those "friends" till after surgery. You answered your own question... It is not just about losing but maintaining also. 

Many have chickened out only to return a year later even more heavy and wishing they hadn't chickened out. Don't be one of them

Stay focused on YOUR goals--better health, being here for your daughter.  I have the naysayers and I let them say whatever they felt.  Didn't change my mind one bit--they have decided to support me, keep quiet or move on.   I had VSG to prevent knee surgery and be here for my 10 year old son!  Almost 6 months post op and it's the best decision I made!

Take care and keep your eyes on the prize--BETTER HEALTH!!

I'm hoping that this will keep me from having to have my other knee done.  Actually both my gastric surgeon and ortho surgeon suggested and support the both surgery but both said to do the knee first.  I'm still recovering but trying.