Can I Be "Snarky" for a Moment??? :)
I know this isn't very nice, but I gotta get it off my chest, and it doesn't exactly fit in the "B*tch-Fest" forum.
All the people in my office have been SO wonderful and supportive about my WLS and my entire journey so far. They are actively engaged with me about my new lifestyle and are genuinely happy for me. All, but one, that is.
This one (nameless) person has always been very health-oriented... she's a vegetarian, very fit, and she's tall and slim/muscular with a perfect build. She's never had an extra pound on her in the 17 years I've known her. She's always been able to eat as much as she wants without gaining a pound... she's one of those 'naturally thin' people that has never had to worry about weight gain. In the past I have ALWAYS complimented her on her pretty figure and her cute clothes, and told her how envious I am that she's never had to watch her weight. She's always said thank you graciously, but has never returned or offered any kind of compliment. Ever.
Anyway, from day one when I first announced my plans to begin this journey almost 2 years ago, she has been completely silent. She has not spoken out for or against my WLS either way. But she clearly gives off a disapproving vibe. She was the only one in the office that didn't sign my get-well card while I was in the hospital or get on the phone when the whole office called me to wish me a speedy recovery. That's okay. I don't expect everyone to be onboard. I'm cool with that.
Now that I've lost over 100 pounds, got all new clothes and look completely different... still - not a word from her. Even when others have complimented me or even gushed about my new figure/clothes in her presence. She stays conspicuously silent or walks away abruptly. I could be way off base, but I get the feeling her disapproval about WLS has now turned to jealousy. She's no longer the only tall, fit woman in the office now. Again - no big... I can live with that.
HOWEVER!!! In the last 2-3 weeks she's been putting on LOTS of weight! I can see it in her face, her hips, and definitely her belly. She's suddenly wearing super baggy, unattractive clothing that is so unlike her. I'd say she's gained about 45 pounds. She's menopause age, so my guess is that's what's happening.
So... just for a minute... just to get it off my chest... bare with me for a second while I get my 'snarky' on...
NEINER NEINER NEINER!!! HA HA HA HA... YOU'RE FAT NOW!!! TAKE THAT!!! NOW YOU KNOW WHAT IT'S LIKE TO WALK A MILE IN MY SHOES!!! NOW YOU GET TO LEARN WHAT IT'S LIKE TO COUNT CALORIES!!! NOW YOU GET TO KNOW WHAT IT'S LIKE TO LOOK IN THE MIRROR AND GO OMG, WHO'S THAT FAT GIRL? NOW YOU GET TO KNOW WHAT IT'S LIKE TO GO TO BED WITH A GROWLING, HUNGRY STOMACH ONLY TO WAKE UP AND HAVE GAINED YET ANOTHER POUND!!! NOW YOU KNOW WHAT IT'S LIKE TO REACH FOR YOUR FAVORITE JEANS AND NOT BE ABLE TO BUTTON THEM!!! NEINER NEINER PUMPKIN EATER!!!! 
Okay... I'm better now. We now return you to your regularly scheduled program. 
Getting pleasure from others misfortune is so... I am rather speechless... And as you said - she was never mean to you...
You have no clue what is she dealing with... That is such a low class post. Specially by somone who was judged harshly in the past due to weight problem...
I think you need to really take a long hard look into yourself...
Hala. RNY 5/14/2008; Happy At Goal =HAG
"I can eat or do anything I want to - as long as I am willing to deal with the consequences"
"Failure is not falling down, It is not getting up once you fell... So pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and start all over again...."
Yes. This isn't snark, this is cruelty. Plain and simple.
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Diagnosed with Binge Eating Disorder and started Vyvanse - 7/22/2016
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Next Goal 145 - normal BMI | Total Weight Lost 170
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on 8/20/15 7:26 am
I hope this woman isn't a friend. What you wrote was downright mean. I think it is great you are losing. But remember where you came from when people thought about you being FAT. I hate even to write that word or say it out loud. We all could end up back there if we don't follow our plan. Life is not easy.
Your post made me feel very sad.
on 8/20/15 7:35 am
Trust me I love to be complimented. But they do stop after a while. No one cares anymore after you lost the weight. I had a very good friend stay with us this weekend. She saw a before picture of me. She said she couldn't believe I was so heavy before surgery. I said to her you are my friend you don't see my body you see my heart. She was like that's true.
I guess some people do not have one.
You're right. Your post isn't very nice. In fact, it's downright disturbing.
Karen
Ontario Recipes Forum - http://www.obesityhelp.com/group/ontario_recipes/ 
I can understand the feeling behind this post. I had a few not so nice encounters. Two of which came from former friends that just couldn't be my friend after I lost weight. The hurt that caused me...well lets say I had some unkind thoughts floating in my head. I kept them to myself, but they were there. I guess what I am saying is that I don't know many people that don't have mean thoughts when faced with this kind of thing. I kept my thoughts to myself. This poster may have needed to vent....I don't know.
Mean or not they are valid feelings of anger/resentment/bitterness/hurt (whatever the feeling) and I am sure many of us have had them and we all deal differently.
I'm sorry, but I can honestly say that no, I don't wish ill on people like this - even when I feel wronged. Maybe it's maturity, or maybe it's my inherently socialist atheist nature.
I think the OP needs to look inside herself, but those of you excusing this could do with thinking twice about what has been said here. I think this is at least as shocking as the original post.
Proud Feminist, Atheist, LGBT friend, and Democratic Socialist
The feelings are valid insomuch as they exist. The feelings are invalid insomuch as they are irrational.
Karen
Ontario Recipes Forum - http://www.obesityhelp.com/group/ontario_recipes/
I know this isn't very nice, but I gotta get it off my chest, and it doesn't exactly fit in the "B*tch-Fest" forum.
All the people in my office have been SO wonderful and supportive about my WLS and my entire journey so far. They are actively engaged with me about my new lifestyle and are genuinely happy for me. All, but one, that is.
This one (nameless) person has always been very health-oriented... she's a vegetarian, very fit, and she's tall and slim/muscular with a perfect build. She's never had an extra pound on her in the 17 years I've known her. She's always been able to eat as much as she wants without gaining a pound... she's one of those 'naturally thin' people that has never had to worry about weight gain. In the past I have ALWAYS complimented her on her pretty figure and her cute clothes, and told her how envious I am that she's never had to watch her weight. She's always said thank you graciously, but has never returned or offered any kind of compliment. Ever.
Anyway, from day one when I first announced my plans to begin this journey almost 2 years ago, she has been completely silent. She has not spoken out for or against my WLS either way. But she clearly gives off a disapproving vibe. She was the only one in the office that didn't sign my get-well card while I was in the hospital or get on the phone when the whole office called me to wish me a speedy recovery. That's okay. I don't expect everyone to be onboard. I'm cool with that.
Now that I've lost over 100 pounds, got all new clothes and look completely different... still - not a word from her. Even when others have complimented me or even gushed about my new figure/clothes in her presence. She stays conspicuously silent or walks away abruptly. I could be way off base, but I get the feeling her disapproval about WLS has now turned to jealousy. She's no longer the only tall, fit woman in the office now. Again - no big... I can live with that.
HOWEVER!!! In the last 2-3 weeks she's been putting on LOTS of weight! I can see it in her face, her hips, and definitely her belly. She's suddenly wearing super baggy, unattractive clothing that is so unlike her. I'd say she's gained about 45 pounds. She's menopause age, so my guess is that's what's happening.
So... just for a minute... just to get it off my chest... bare with me for a second while I get my 'snarky' on...
NEINER NEINER NEINER!!! HA HA HA HA... YOU'RE FAT NOW!!! TAKE THAT!!! NOW YOU KNOW WHAT IT'S LIKE TO WALK A MILE IN MY SHOES!!! NOW YOU GET TO LEARN WHAT IT'S LIKE TO COUNT CALORIES!!! NOW YOU GET TO KNOW WHAT IT'S LIKE TO LOOK IN THE MIRROR AND GO OMG, WHO'S THAT FAT GIRL? NOW YOU GET TO KNOW WHAT IT'S LIKE TO GO TO BED WITH A GROWLING, HUNGRY STOMACH ONLY TO WAKE UP AND HAVE GAINED YET ANOTHER POUND!!! NOW YOU KNOW WHAT IT'S LIKE TO REACH FOR YOUR FAVORITE JEANS AND NOT BE ABLE TO BUTTON THEM!!! NEINER NEINER PUMPKIN EATER!!!!
Okay... I'm better now. We now return you to your regularly scheduled program.
I LOVE snark. Snark is my very favorite form of sarcasm, and I utilize it often in my life when the need arises.
This, however, sails right past snark and heads into the deep cesspool that is straight up meanness.
We have all been fat-shamed and made to feel horrible about ourselves, I understand that, but said co-worker never did that to you. Was she friendly? Nope. Did she fawn over you when you started losing weight? Again...nope. Was she required to ooh and ahh? Nope. Was she even required to be chummy and accept your many compliments over the years? Nnnnnope. Was she ever required to reciprocate compliments? No, no she wasn't.
Your post, even in jest, really rubbed me the wrong way. Don't sully the good name of snark, please.
I woke up in between a memory and a dream...
Tom Petty
Yikes. I so didn’t expect such a reaction from all you fine people. And it was never my intention to offend anyone. I know that sometimes internet posts do not show or reflect the true feelings behind them and I should have been more careful.
Please know that I have NO ill will towards this person. None whatsoever. I’ve known her for 17 years in my workplace, and I know her well enough to know that things are going very well in her life right now. She’s put on some weight, that’s all. And I was being totally snarky about it. I admitted that the problem is me and an obvious case of jealousy on my part.
I did not intend to show contempt for her, or anyone in her situation… just the opposite. I was trying to point out with humor how childish I am for feeling snarky about the whole thing. I was ranting like a 2-year old and wrongly assumed this would be perceived in the tongue-in-cheek manner I was shooting for. It was not meant to be taken seriously. I am not a mean-spirited person. I hope you will believe that.
Again, please accept my apologies. It won’t ever happen again. I enjoy and cherish this website too much to denigrate it in any way.
GOAL REACHED! 170 lbs lost...
RNY: 2/9/15 (age 52), Ht-5'9" HW=304, SW=292, GW=155, LW=134, CW=147
Mo.1 -29lbs Mo.2 -18lbs Mo.3 -13lbs Mo.4 -11lbs Mo.5 - 14lbs Mo.6 - 10lbs Mo. 7 -11lbs Mo. 8 -9.4lbs
