Can I Be "Snarky" for a Moment??? :)

I agree with you Gwen. I have never been comfortable with people commenting on my body nor do I feel comfortable commenting on someone else. 

When people talk about my body now, I internally cringe. It makes me so uncomfortable. We have a neighbor who brings up my weight loss every time we see him. I know he's trying to be supportive, but I'm just so over discussing it.

There are far more interesting topics in life than weight loss. In fact, it's boring.

Yes!  One of the people who works at my allergist's office, where I go mostly weekly for shots, always greets me with "how much weight have your lost now?"  So freaking rude.  If she were to start losing lots of weight, there's no way I'd "return the favor" and ask her about her loss.  

The only person I've been bothered by not saying anything is my former bff, there are other reasons he's not my bff anymore, but it bothered me that he never at least said "good job" or similar.  When he finally did comment it was an off hand, "it's good that the surgery is working for you."  But other than that, I've been pretty relieved when people don't say a word.  I know I've lost weight, they know I've lost weight, it doesn't need to be a topic of discussion.  

Back in my days/years/decades of employment the workplace changed.  Now, in most officers, it is "politically incorrect" to mention things about race/religion/gender/sexual preferences/weight/etc. They hold classes on it, and supervisors/managers can get fired.

Also -- such a rapid weight gain can signal a serious health condition.  She didn't gain that much weight by eating to many cookies, or eating pizza.  Something is seriously wrong is my guess.

I'm guessing she has thyroid issues. For her to be so silent and leave abruptly I'm wondering if there is something going on her life that she's not sharing. Maybe she had s family member or someone that had a bad experience with WLS and she is following "if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all" rule. Of course I'm just speculating... It's the social worker in me.lol 

Sorry, I don't like this thread.  We've all probably been fat shamed one or many times in our life.  I get no joy out of seeing someone fall apart mentally and/or physically... :(

I hate to break this to you, but we really are not that special.  On OH, we get to post about ourselves and we'll get a lot of attention from our peers, but I doubt the rest of the world gives a damn!

To delight in the problems of other people isn't snark, it's just plain mean.  It sounds like your colleague is experiencing some real problems, I hope you are able to reflect on this post and find it in your heart/soul to feel some sympathy/empathy.  It will make you a much more attractive person on the inside to match the new outside of which you are so proud.

  Exactly.  

First of all, there is no such thing as a "Miss Perfect".  Everyone has "****" to deal with in life.  In your post, you don't say anywhere that she has ever been outwardly mean to you, just silent.  So you're basically pissed she hasn't swooned over your weight loss.  Well, not everyone is that kind of person.  Maybe she struggles with an eating disorder you can't see.  I have learned in this life never to make judgments about people from what I can see on the outside because that person may be struggling with something awful on the inside.  My grandmother said that sometimes a person's life seems all "rosie" and perfect on the outside, but you never ever know what goes on behind closed doors.  Someone may seem perfect and put together out in the open but their reality may be a total mess.  So, I always try to be kind and gracious even to those who may be a little "nasty" because my kindness and understanding may be just what that person needs to make it through the day.  And I would never wish obesity on even my worst enemy.  It's concerning to me that someone can gain 45 pounds in a months time.  She may be dealing with a serious health issue and you're relishing in it.  Dang!!

EXACTLY!  We're all doing the best we can!!