Starting to get cold feet

Call me dumb, and many have, but I learned the basics and then just tuned out.  I didn't want to overload myself with information, which would make me nervous.  I didn't want to give up eating!  I didn't want to give up Friday morning donuts!  I wanted to eat my ass off on holidays.  But deep down I knew I couldn't keep on keeping on.   Accept the challenge and keep your eye on the end goal  Its worth it!

I'm pre-op and nearing the end of my assessment stage (and therefore nearing the time I get a surgery date). Throughout this process I have had bouts of anxiety where I sometimes feel overwhelmed by all of this information I'm trying to absorb, changes I'm making, and the occasional feeling like I'm not going to succeed. I mean, part of the requirement for surgery is to have failed a zillion diet plans. So, if I failed those, why would I succeed now?

anyway, just curious if anyone else got cold feet beforehand? I'm telling myself to suck it up and stop being a baby. I have started going to support group meetings at my medical centre. Getting support from real, live people will help (I think).

I,also,could not wait toget on. The table and I was having my surgery in MX! Hands down,the BEST decision I have EVER made for myself. 

I was more afraid of the problems my comorbidities were causing/going to cause than I was surgery!

my surgery is on Friday 5 Days away!!!  I have been having cold feet and doubts right up til now.  It is something that I personally wrestle with daily since I started this process.  I do always tell myself that the outcome of a healthier me will be worth it in the end.  You will succeed now because you are not dieting, you are making a lifestyle change.  You have support groups doctors strangers all pulling and rooting for you.  You have all these tools now that we don't always have when we diet.  We diet to loose a # of pounds and when we don't we feel like we failed.  If you made one good healthy decision daily when you were dieting then I feel you didn't fail, you succeeded because you took the steps to a healthier life on decision at a time.  That to me is what the bypass is doing, it was the first decision in a long line of healthier choices that I am making to better myself for me and my family.  I am always here if you need to chat.  Good luck

Normal... big change = anxiety, fear of the unknown. 

This is different because you will see some hard core results pretty quickly and that along with the surgical assistance (for a time) preventing you from overeating (and absorbing in the case of RNY/DS) will give you time, motivation and inspiration to make those healthy lifestyle changes you are forced to do in the beginning months a PERMANENT part of your life... making healthy eating choices, water, vits, moving your body every day (much easier to do with less weight and many health issues hopefully resolved) and working on the why's and how's "the head stuff" that does not go away with the pounds and is the hardest part IMHO Start now... therapist, support group, meditation, whatever... deal with the past, the reasons why, any addiction issues, how you will deal with life in other ways, etc.

That being said... I capped PERMANENT for a reason...“If you always do what you've always done, you'll always get what you've always got”.  You have to makes those healthy lifestyle changes a part of your life forever so make them something you enjoy (find tasty healthy foods you look forward too, some fun ways to sweat, create permanent habits that just become your way of life and slay your dragons.) 

Hope you find peace with your decision... having WLS was the BEST GIFT I ever gave myself. Hope you will feel the same.

~Shelly

Four years ago (2011) is when I chickened out. I had the classes and the psych appt and one of my coworkers was also going through the steps. She had the surgery and I didn't. I didn't want to quit smoking and I didn't have the support at home to go through with it. Today it has been since May 28th I quit smoking, am no longer on the nicotine patch and have a great support system. I am also going through a divorce, my kids are now college bound and I am confident getting the surgery will be a success now. I cannot do this on my own. I have done the zillion diets and now as i get older, I am finding it more difficult to lose the weight. I plan on using these forums to help me since I have a long way to go. My orientation is tomorrow. My workplace offers the surgery and felt it best to go this route. I cannot wait for this journey to begin!

The best post surgical moment was when I saw my ex hubby after 2 years and he was 'wow' he left because he said I was too fat

Thanks, everyone, for the replies. It is encouraging to hear the advice... And encouraging to know that others who have proven success had similar feelings at one time or another. I am going to succeed.

I am glad I am not the only one with cold feet my surgery is August 7. I see the psych and nutritionist Tuesday. I canceled my surgery three years ago about this far along. I promised I wouldn't cancel again!  I am getting nervous. Worried about complications and such. Worried about failure!  But I  going to fight for this and u can too!  Three years later I'm still the same weight!!!!  We can do this!  This site has given me hope!  I hope it helps u too!!  

Thank you and good luck with your surgery. I'm beginning to be less nervous, but I'm sure the nerves will return at some point. I suppose I just need to stay positive.

best wishes for a perfect procedure.

I found it really helped to go through the Before & After photos and read the various blogs by the other OH'ers.  

Hang in there, Kid.  It'll be OK.

Just remember:  walkwalkwalk, sipsipsip, chewchewchew, Nap a Needed. And stay off the scale until after your first post-op appointment.  The stalls will drive you nutz.