My goal...not my family's goal

I set a goal for myself before surgery and with the weight loss comes opinions....my mom thinks I should be 139, my BF thinks 135, my grandma thinks 135-139. I'm over here stressing for others!!!!! Noooooo!!! I'm in a stall and I know it's me; I got up out of bed at 11pm and re-set my goal to 149, because that's what I WANT! 84.6 lbs when I get there is a huge success! Being down just over 60 since starting the surgery process is something to be proud of! This is FOR ME and with my current struggle the fact is I'm still a success! Instead of sitting here beating myself up; I'm going to celebrate, get back on track, and finish this race by Dec 1st as planned!!! I must say I thought this would be easier; 7 months/3 weeks post op I'm here to say every day is a choice ! Thanks for the support and ability to share honestly! 

You must be much nicer than I am. I would tell everyone to mind their own ******g business!! Your goal weight is your choice. Period. I would have NO patience for such bull**** Seriously. No one gave me their opinion on what my goal weight should be and they knew not to. 

You are doing an awesome job. Focus on that.

Why is this even a conversation?  Why do these people even know your exact weight?

weight fluctuates a few pounds all the time .... And it is really a private matter.

It should really be between you and possibly your doctor .... Even my surgeon does not set exact goal weights, rather he suggests we aim for wellness.

You might want to think about setting boundaries with your family regarding your health.

For your peace of mind, stop giving them a say. This is yiur health, and they can **** up a stiff rope. 

Set and enforce boundaries.

So much this.

I agree with keeping what the scale says to yourself.  Even when you do weight what your want as your goal - that number will change through the following months and years.  I'm just 6 years post RNY - but it is very difficult and hard work to maintain my goal weight.  I weight daily so I can catch the scale creeping up and journal my food intake and make the changes necessary.

I consider all this personal and don't share with non bariatric people in my life.

Stay on your bariatric food plan.  I found after 18 months post surgery - losing was much more difficult.  Stay on track now while you are within that "honeymoon period".

Best wishes,

Penny

I'm in agreement with the others.  Simply tell them that you've decided your goal weight is something very personal and you won't be sharing that with anyone anymore.  You've done a great job.  Don't let other people second guess you.

This is YOUR journey, nobody else's.  Do what is right for you.  All too often women in our society are trained from birth to make every decision about what someone else needs, not themselves.  

Just ignore them.