Goal fail

I had gastric bypass 2 years ago and went from 311 to 229 then back up to 240. I tried really hard exercising eatin right. There would be times I may have ate something bad like a candy kiss or a scope of ice cream and I would tell my dietician but what got me is they would only point out that one candy kiss I ate rather then looking at my whole success 24/7 . I never had dumping just very bad constipation in the beging. I'm just very discourage withball my hard work I lost so very little. I am off my blood pressure meds and off insulin but the weight is still there and I am still considered obese. Why is it that I hear some stories of how some people did barely anything and the weight just melted off. I been so depressed since .  why did this surgerybfail on me? What can I do now?

What exactly does your daily meals look like?  Are you measuring/weighing what you eat?  How is your water intake?  How is your protein intake?  Are you taking your daily vitamins? 

There are some great vets on here that I am sure with chime in with suggestions.

I would get right back to the basics.  Weigh and measure everything and journal it all.  When I started to do this I was surprised by my portion sizes.  Eyeballing your portions isn't always the best thing.  What I thought was a 1/2 cup was actually closer to a cup.  I was eating almost twice as much as I thought I was.  I kept track of it.  Counted to see how much calories I was eating...proteins, carbs.  I tracked it all.  There may be areas you need to improve upon.  I cut way way down on the sugar intake.  I ate complex carbs...like fruits and veggies.      

Drink lots of water.  I actually stopped drinking anything bu****er for awhile to make sure I was getting the required amount.  Now I just have water with me 24/7 and sip sip sip.  I get more than enough water. 

Eat lots of lean protein. 

Keep very active.  Not just exercise but during your day.  Do things that keep you up and going and not sedentary.  Go out and garden or mow the lawn, catch up on some of the projects you have putting off around the house...like painting that room.  Just last weekend I mulched part of my yard.  It was 90 degrees out.  I did this for 90 minutes and I was sweating like a pig.  I think I got a better workout doing that than I did in the gym...LOL.  But you get the picture.  I try not to just sit around all of the time.   

Get a good night's rest. 

I have to say in the beginning I didn't do so well with my weight loss.  It took me awhile to get a hang of this lifestyle and band.  I think it's normal to struggle.  Sure there are people that hit the ground running and make it seem so effortless.  But more people have to work and struggle daily.  I have been at it for 6+ years and lost and maintained 185lb loss.  It's not easy.  I struggle to keep my self in check.  Just keep at it.  Don't lose focus and don't give up.  You can do this!!!  Good luck!!!

I see you deactivated, but I hope you come back and look at this. It is scary, but there is a lot of great advice here...

I'm not a pro with advice, but I didn't want to just read and run.  I haven't had a surgery yet, I'm half way through my 6-month program leading up to possible surgery. 

I'm sorry you're depressed with where you are, but now that you've expressed your thoughts, today can be the chance to start over with the tool you already have. The bright side: You don't have to wait to get it, it's already done!  It sounds like you're really in a slump, but you reached out for support - that's awesome.  Take some of the advice you get here, and use the motivation to make a call to the doctor/surgeon/nutritionist, whoever you can get to, and follow the advice to get back on track.  If you've worked with a nutritionist who didn't feel right, see if you can find another one!  Sometimes we just don't click with a person and need to make a change.  But don't just tune out the critiques, either - they know what they're doing, they've seen it all before, and sometimes you just have to swallow the pride and do what they say. Take the advice, do the work, and you will see results.

You didn't mention anything outside of food as a source of frustration.  Have you added cardio and strength exercise to your routine?  I'm learning how crucial those elements are to a successful journey.  All 3 are essential to weight loss.  If you aren't doing those things, try to add them to your days. Seek out things you can do regardless of any limitations that might keep you from moving.  Walking is obvious.  But if your feet hurt, do upper body movement. If you like gym time (as much as anyone "likes" gym time :)),  try a seated elliptical or an arm bike.  Get inexpensive strength bands and use them at home. If you don't want to pay for a gym, look for pay-as-you-go class options, pool time, or search for youtube videos.  I like the HITT videos myself - free and simple to modify what they're doing on the screen, keeps me moving!  It's all so important so our bodies can handle all the changes that come after surgery. 

You didn't give yourself much credit for the work you've already done - I bet it feels great to have lost the weight you have!  Think of what you can do now that you weren't able to do then - and imagine how much more you will be able to do if you get moving. 

I'm a novice and haven't "been there done that" yet, but I bet I'll hit a time like you're describing, and I hope I can remember these things then!

I see you have deactivated, but I hope you come back. It comes down to what you eat. You must measure your portions and track your food. Take responsibility for how much you eat. No excuses. You can do this, but you have to work at it. You have to believe you are worth it. That was the most important lesson I learned in my journey. Losing weight and keeping it off is hard work and I AM worth it!!

A lot of people expect WLS to get like "set and forget" but except for a very lucky few it isn't.  

I remember feeling such a failure when I regained 100 lbs after my first WLS and I was struggling to lose weight and it finally dawned on me.  To lose weight after WLS you have to do the EXACT same things as before surgery.  For some reason I thought the rules would change because my insides had been rearranged.

The surgery did HELP me do those things that needed to be done and for that is was worth it.  In all my life I could never maintain a normal weight for any amount of time and now I am going on 5 years of "normal" eating.  Could never have been done if I hadn't had WLS AND followed the rules.

I won't waste you time telling you want you need to do or eat to get the weight off.  All I can do is advice you to look at why you eat the way you do and identify any food issues you may have and work on them along with doing what you need to do.

One thing I did learn though, if you want to know why you over eat you have to stop over eating.

Thank you for your reply it helped. I did sweat my ass off 5-6x a week and eat right until I fractured my ribs on an exercise machine 6 weeks recovery then right after recovery I fell down the stairs and and injured my ankle believe me my struggle I did not give up. So many obstacles I've dealt with.

If you come back to read this, I hope you understand that the surgery didn't fail you.  You failed the surgery.  Your nutritionist and doctor are focusing on those parts when you cheat because the fact you are willing to cheat like that means you are not following plan. 

You seem to have not followed the diet that was given to you.  No starches sugars or other bad carbs, only greens.  Lots of proteins, no drinking with meals, measuring your food, moving.  If you did all of that you would have lost it and not regained.  The surgery didn't make you not get to goal and regain.  Your food choices did.

Actually my nutrionist said its okay to have a little something sometimes. My nutrionist thought I did great. I also fractured my ribs 4 mos into surgery then after a 6 week recovery sprained my ankle. My problem was not that I didn't follow eating the right foods or not exercise because I did all that. I sweated my ass off. I never had dumping because I never ate wrong. The only time I had problems was when I drank water too fast and when I injured myself. I also didn't mention I had a dislocated knee cap but I still kept going. It's hard when your trying to exercise and one doctor is saying your doing too much and another is saying yes 5x a week is fine. Thanks for the reply.