May I suggest you put in a few paragraphs in?  I did start reading but I have a bit of a headache and just gave up, 

I'm sorry you're having such a tough time.  The entire experience is new and takes a lot of adjustments.  I have experienced similar things and when things get tough, you want to eat to feel better.  My wife just lost here job and we have gone almost a month without her income, which causes massive stress.  For me stress equals food.  I'm trying to view this as another chapter in the new life where I handle things differently.  I am going to  miss my mortgage payment tomorrow which will be the first one in thirty years and 4 homes.  Not a proud moment.  

What I'm trying to do is focus on what I have right in front of me.  My not meal, next workout, taking a walk, etc.  To relieve stress, after eating my second favorite thing to do is buy stuff....clothes in particular, thats out....so I walk, run, lift weights, garden, etc.  Something that forces me to focus on stuff other than the pity party in my head.  

My wife is an alcoholic and I occasionally attend AA meetings with her.  I've learned a lot in there, as we are similar in our addictions.  One thing they say is they have a "thinking" problem not a "drinking" problem.  We are similar.  We have to find another outlet.  Have you considered over eaters meetings?  They discuss things as it relates to your addiction to food, you might find it helpful.

Also, in this day and age, if your boyfriend is a source of support, its much easier to carry on a long distance relationship these days with FaceTime, texting, emails and all the other apps out there.

Focus on your tremendous accomplishments since you started this and build on them.  I wish you continued success.

I just want to state. I am sorry that you are missing your mortgage payment and are married to an alcoholic.

But I DO LIKE how you are handling these problems in a positive constructive way.  I also appreciate to how you can relate your food problem to your wife's problems with alcohol.

I dont know you, but your post is very mature and I think you are probably a very resilient person.  

I'm sorry you're going thru all this. I am sure there are some type of Post WLS group meetings or even OA meetings you could attend which, if nothing else, may have some info on counseling or other services available to you. I have found the best support for me thru these meetings.  Perhaps call your surgeons office and they could refer you to a place for help. 

Best of luck to you. 

Dear J: I am so sorry that things have been so difficult in your life. I have had some similar bumps in the road both before and after my surgery. Please be kind to yourself. You have accomplished so much and God knows it hasn't been easy. Try to find peace in the knowledge that as hard as it is right now you are exactly where you are suppose to be. You deserve to be happy. You will feel even worse if you start to turn to food to help you cope. Does your boyfriend know how bad you are feeling?

I am Canadian so can only speak about services that are available here. I don't know if you have similar services where you are. Here in Ontario we have crisis services to talk to 24/7. We can also go to the emergency room and be seen by a doctor who can ask a social worker or psychiatric doctor to come and speak with us and evaluate whether we need more long term support. They can refer us to therapists, counsellors or other specialists.Do you have any of these things available?

I am not sure if you are a spiritual person but if you are please lean on your minister or priest.

Lastly, have you considered attending a support group? I know that OA (overeaters anonymous) has helped many. I haven't used them but I do attend a monthly support group for WLS patients once per month.

Please take care of yourself and you have shown you want to feel better by coming here for help. I hope this has helped at least a bit. You are a beautiful woman that deserves to be healthy and happy. Please stay in touch. I would love to help if I can.

Chris 

Ignore the condescending comments some feel compelled to make. 

Which comments do you think are condescending?!? I saw nothing wrong with any of them.

I really try not to hurt people! It wasn't my comment was it? I can't see anything negative in any of the answers.