Really?! Ice cream and cake and Chipotle

Glad your surgery went well! It's the best gift I ever gave myself having WLS hope you will soon feel the same way.

So I'd turn this rant into a conversation when the initial "OMFG" feeling subsides and tell your people that you need a few behaviors to change at least for a bit until you learn to navigate these new waters... but...

You are going to have to learn to navigate... there will always be the bakery window, the break room snacks, the vending machine, the granny who "made you your favorite", the fast food convenience, the holiday party... and it only gets worse...

Right now you have an "excuse" not to eat it... liquids, healing, just had surgery. One day and sooner than you think you will have to rely on your choices, will, determination to change your life... physically you will be able to eat all of the above that is waved in front of you and under your nose. 

I get it for sure though... home should be a safe zone filled with people that support your efforts to get healthy... not change entirely of course but support you. I'd ask for that support (no one is a mind reader and sometimes they just don't get it, habit, cluelessness, etc.) and if you don't get it after asking... I'd start looking into, working on the why's of that (are they trying to sabotage out of a fear of change, enabling is a habit, are they battling their own addictions, etc.)  

Sending you good vibes, never apologize for ranting... that's what the boards are for (though be prepared for push back along with the high fives) 

~Michelle "Shelly"

oh and P.S. If Chipotle, ice cream and cake are something you want in your life when you are able... there are healthier ways to incorporate all of the above, modified. 

When you get to soft foods, this selfish behavior won't bother you so much. The liquids are just so nauseating after a while. I could care less about that stuff now as I know I'm making a better life for myself by eating healthy. I was never a big fast food person, but it's really disgusting to me now!!  Your family is being selfish and I'm sorry you have to deal with that. Keep your eye on the prize!  

I'm sorry that your family couldn't be at least a little bit more respectful of your situation but people are gonna eat what they want when they want in front of you, so you might have to walk away from the situation, or maybe let them know that at least for now if they could not eat that stuff right in front of you. You're gonna have to figure this out cuz temptation will be everywhere.

Have you talked with them to let them know how their actions are making you feel?  And that you're not feeling supported when they eat these things around you?  They might not realize that they're being crummy.  

My dad did this as well.  I was in the hospital for 5 days, but when I finally got home - I think it was day 6, he made these teriyaki chicken wings that smelled up the entire house.  It was the first food that actually smelled good to me.  That's not what bothered me.  What aggravated me is when he said, "It's too bad you can't eat these because they are the best batch I've ever made."  This, from a guy who had an RNY back in 2011.  You'd think he'd be a little more sensitive to that.  Nope.  I know I've mentioned many times that he is a failure story as far as WLS so I mostly ignore his idiocy. 

As I said above, until you fell stronger or differently, definitely speak up to let them know how you feel.  And if you can't rant to us, then for heaven's sake, who can you rant to? 

I actually had the opposite problem after my surgery.  My wife wanted to eat NOTHING in front of me, because she was afraid of how it would tempt me.  I had to be very forceful that I didn't want her and my daughter spending time away from me, just because of food.  I knew what I was getting into when I had the surgery, and I knew I didn't want to be segregated.

But, if it's bothering you this much, be direct with them, and maybe be forceful if you need to.  The first few weeks are tough with food, but it gets easier as you move to each stage.  Just try and keep telling yourself that, and it'll get better.

Agree with Bill above, Family time is a valuable commodity.  You shouldn't give up your time with them because of temptations, you can never get it back.  Instead work to wrap your mind around the fact that its just not your food.  IE, youre in a restaurant and its there plate not yours wherever you are.

Good luck with your journey!

Stay strong - although it is not very supportive to do that right in front of you - you kept on plan.  Give yourself a pat on the back!

It is not funny at all, but 8 years later, I can laugh.  I STILL remember my family doing this to me right after surgery.  I was the Chief Cook at home, so when I was out of commission, they ordered out almost every night -- it was pizza, Chinese, McD's, etc.  I remember smelling a hamburger and actually crying because I couldn't eat it.  I also remember sipping chicken broth while they inhaled pizza.  It took me longer to drink my broth than it did for them to devour 2 pizzas (5 people).  I remember thinking, "Did they even enjoy that food?"  I may have written about it on my profile here. 

No, they don't understand.  They couldn't possibly.  But we all do, so feel free to rant any time.  Know that "this too shall pass," and you will be happier and healthier than you have ever been.