My friend's sage advice to me after I posted a question on Facebook

Pollyanna is ok, but I dislike posts that are too Pollyester.

Pollyanna is ok, but I dislike posts that are too Pollyester.

Well actually if you combine Pollyanna and something synthetic - don't you get polyester????? 

We could coin a new term for unicorns and sweeteners. A pollyester post 

I copied and pasted. I don't understand why anyone would post a negative comment on something like this. 

My comment was not negative. I was simply trying to show you why your post irritated people. The part about not being fixated on the scale and not being judged or judging yourself by your size was good - often said on here. Unfortunately the rest read like a Victorian treatise on the beautiful soul. There is nothing wrong with that, as I said, some would like it. 

But it not taking the minute to put in formatting gets you off on the wrong foot. 

No Kate, your comment was not negative at all. I was responding to your statement about how posts like mine could be viewed as negative.  That's all.  I posted the original thread because it spoke to me and I figured it would speak to others as well. 

I've never been one to let my weight dictate who I am or what I am capable of doing.  My friend Robin (who wrote the original post) and I feel exactly the same way about it not being as important as society makes it out to be. For us relationships trump all other matters. I think that's really important for happiness and success in life. We have both been accused of being Pollyanna-ish and we both laugh and agree that we always look for the good and stand up for what/who we believe to the underdog.

My goal with this very elective surgery is to become healthier and to keep all the health issues that plague my family at bay for as long as possible.  I feel it's probably the only thing that will get me back down to a healthy weight so that the changes I have already made and continue to make will have a better chance for the long term.

Bad formatting, run on sentences, bad grammar or spelling and snark run rampant on this site. Does everyone get called on it?  Rhetorical question, just curious really.     

I'm not normally one for glurge, but this really spoke to me, and also synced really well with what I've been working on with my therapist. Different people have different outlooks and emotional needs, but I don't see this at all as being an excuse for staying fat and lazy -- it's self-compassion, and realizing that the opposite of perfect isn't failure. For those of us who have the tendency to "throw it all away" because one thing didn't go perfectly, learning to be a B student and be happy in the moment is worlds apart from making excuses. It's actually crucial to our success!

I'm also a huge grammar nerd and had no problem understanding this. Maybe that's just another sign that I'm finally letting go of my perfectionism, haha. Thank you for sharing this! 

I'm glad it spoke to you too. 

What a wonderful attitude! Thanks for posting this.

I like the message but could not be happy in my MO body, I was embarassed, ashamed and hid myself because of it, it effected everything in my life in a negative way for twenty years.  Only being normal weight for the last ten years has made the difference.  To me weight was the defining factor in my misery.

Then I am happy that you found happiness in your new body!