My friend's sage advice to me after I posted a question on Facebook

Having struggled with weight, my entire adult life, I can sympathize. I have at times, reached various goals, and at other times, gained weight. I have decided no food is bad, in general, the key is moderation. Brande is so right. Smaller portions, stopping when one feels "full", no evening chomping. If I have a bad day, I don't let it make me feel like throwing in the towel. A couple other things I have figured out is feeling "hungry" is okay sometimes. Food tastes so much better when I am hungry. Full is a human feeling, but so is hungry. I have came to realize feeling "stuffed" is just as miserable, if not more so than feeling hungry. Also, the "rules" change as the decades roll by. Science is constantly evolving and what is recommended at one point, will be warned about later. Anyway, I love me today. Not in some distant future time when I loose the appropriate number of pounds. l love me, today. I am perfectly fine. I can get up and walk, think, see, feel, touch, laugh and love. I will not judge myself by pounds on a scale, instead, I hold myself to far greater standards. Did I help someone today, did I bring joy and happiness to those I love, have I found time to read, relax and renew inner tranquility??? No longer do I judge myself by the number on the scale, the degree of cleanliness to my home, if the floor is clean swept and the linens crisp. Instead, if I fixed a hearty supper for Rich and family, if I chatted with Mom, played a game with the children, walked the dog, shared with my children, just a phone call or simple exchange of words, hugged the babies, if I let all my loved ones know I adore them. That they are dear to me, perhaps spoke with  friends and also found time to do some things that restore my soul............... watch an old movie, listen to some music, just lie on the bed and let the breeze blow over me................hearing the children's voices echoing outside, with a puppy by my side, with my beloved possessions nearby, and all my dear friends and family tucked safely in my heart and memories............... Life is good, and I won't dwell on a number on a scale. Instead, I shall live each day to the fullest, in the belief I am .... "good enough"......

WoW! I mean WOW!!! This really spoke to me. What a great post! I really need to rethink my idea of success. I'm going to print this for my bathroom mirror and remember to practice what it says. The heck with the scales! I have more important things to take care of. Thanks so much for sharing! Chris.

I felt the same way when she sent it to me.

I also enjoyed the post: thank you for sharing it 

Flashkiki, how did you get all of the information to show under your name? I would like to include the process and dates, as you have (I won't be having the actual surgery until sometime in June at the soonest).

Thanks!

Alison

If you click on "my OH" at the top-right corner of the screen, pick "medical history." You can add surgery there and it'll show up with your posts.

Thanks, Julie. I don't have a surgery date yet: it will be sometime in June. I was thinking of something similar to what Modest Phoenix and Flashkiki have done.

Alison

On the upper right side of the OH page you will see your profile name on the blue bar.  Click on it.  Then you will see a tab for settings, click on it.  Next you will see other tabs.  Find the one for message board and then you will find your way to a customized signature.  That's how I set mine up.  I update my weight information on the first of each month. 

Thank you! 

Consider paragraphs - I find one long run on like this,  way too difficult to read and follow and so the message is lost!