Just A warning i wished i received before i lost my mother in law

There are plenty of reviews of him on OH, and the ones I see are very positive. (Also 27 ratings elsewhere.) A few very strongly worded ones, but they seem to stick out among others. Hmmmm...

Not sure how everything you read could be "all the same" when the bad stories seem to make up a small percentage of available information.

Sounds like a disgruntled acquaintance.  The ones that stick out are obsurdley worded

I don't buy this either because I actually have COPD and only a moderate case at that but it takes heaven and earth to move before I can have any surgery. Not only does the surgeon have to approve you but so does the anesthesiologist and you would be hard pressed to find a surgeon AND an anesthesiologist who would agree to risk their licenses just to do an elective surgery like a gastric bypass. There are other surgeries they would do first like a sleeve or a lapband. That is one reason I was stuck with a lap band because the surgeon didn't want to risk damaging my lungs. Most of the time the surgeon and anesthesiologist work for different people, the surgeons work for one group and the anesthesiologists work for another group or for the hospital. There are just too many holes in this story, either you misunderstood the situation or there is something very wrong with this story.

Daisy,

I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you for warning everyone about this.

Robin

DAISYMAE---let me add another thing, that only a post op WLS person could possibly understand:

When surfers drown, riding a huge wave...

When trick motorcyclists die, jumping over 20 cars or the Grand Canyon...

When an obese person dies, after finally having the ONE thing they are just SO sure is going to solve ALL their problems...

Then they died doing what they WANTED to do...

I had written that, in a letter, to be opened, in the event I did not live thru my WLS. I wanted my family and friends to know the surgery was MY choice, and to NEVER blame themselves, or anyone else.

It is obvious your MIL desperately wanted WLS

I am very sorry about your loss, but NO doctor is going to guarantee that someone who has health issues is going to live a long life and be free of any complications and "magically better".  One surgeon already refused to do the surgery, yet she insisted on finding someone who was willing to take a chance and do it.  Unfortunately, by signing the surgical consent, she was consenting to taking the chance.  As others have pointed out, your FIL should have taken her to the ER!  Why did he do nothing other than try to reach one doctor by phone?  (Also, as someone else already said, NO surgeon provides NO backup when they are gone for an extended period of time. No one.)

I understand that you are upset, and that these are your perceptions of what has happened, but some things just don't make sense in the way you have presented them.  Ultimately, though, your MIL sought out a second surgeon when she didn't like the fact that the first surgeon said it could kill her.  For all you know, even the second doctor may have warned her...

Lora

Wow. I'm so sorry for the loss of your mother in law. It is quite unfortunate when ourselves or our loved ones become the small percentage of cases that do not go well. I know that often when doctors are selling the surgery they can indeed minimize the actual risks. And yes, it's our responsibility to do our research and be fully aware of our risks, however, it is quite easy to overlook them when we see and hear of so many success stories. I am so sorry that the gut reaction of some of the users here is to attack you, your mother in law, and even blame your father in law rather than swallow the possibility that something associated with the surgery could have possibly gone wrong. I just want to offer my deep condolences and support. Feel free to PM me if you want to talk. Thank you for making us aware of this case. Even if some doubt your account, some will look at it and be prompted to research more and/or think more carefully about the surgery. 

How on earth is questioning the poster's facts "attacking" her?

why  don't you re-read the tone and content of some of the responses and ask again

Just did. And I'll ask again. 

There's a big difference between questioning someone's story and "attacking" them as a person. Nobody is calling OP a liar or calling her stupid, rather they're questioning the facts presented.