Big Women: Big Love

okay...I'm a guy and yes I watch this show...lol 

But what I want to know if any of you watch this show, what do you think about it? Can someone really love themselves being so over weight? 

I'm the largest I've ever been, and I love myself more than I ever have. Not because of my weight, but because I've learned the importance of loving myself right now. If I don't love me now, how will I love myself after surgery? There will always be a part of us that we aren't happy with, which is why we have to stop waiting for perfection before we can love ourselves.

I'm strong, sexy, confident, and independent. Surgery won't make me a better me, it will just make me a healthier me. 

Great attitude!

I think we can love ourselves, but that doesn't mean we're happy with ourselves. I mean, I'd rather be a healthy weight where I can not only look good, but more important, feel good. I'm not "thin" yet, but I feel more upbeat because I'm physically improved. I can tie my shoelaces, I can get up and down now, I can walk better, etc., etc., etc. I don't notice people treating me better - maybe because even before surgery I had a smile for everybody and always greeted people with a hello. There's no getting away from the fact that fat people face discrimination. I've seen a few posts lately by people going on job interviews, and they feel very confident because they are not thinking about how the interviewer is seeing them, rather they are confident they've got the skills/experience to land the job. Don't know if that makes a lot of sense. I know I'm a good person who cares about other people whether I'm fat or thin, but I'd much rather be thin. 😊

I've always loved myself. Even 130 pounds ago. 

I caught the first episode, cheese and potatoes I think it was.. I wasn't too into it so I didn't catch this weeks episode.

There are times I love myself more than others.. there are times when I am embarrassed by my weight, for instance, walking past a group of teenagers hanging out in front of a gas station. There are times I am frustrated with myself as well.

I am a constant work in progress :)

 

Love myself...yes. Like what I did to myself in terms of my weight and poor eating choices...Hell No!

I've never watched the show, but I know the basis of it. As for your question, I only know that for myself, my weight has never impacted my ability to love myself. Were it not for the health related issues that have risen due to my weight, I wouldn't have had my surgery. 262 lbs or 125 lbs, i'll still be the same girl. It seems that my weight HAS determined whether or not certain people find me attractive or lovable. What's more frustrating, is that it's made me a victim of unfounded prejudice by people at work who apparently subscribe to the belief that if you're fat, your lazy or can't possibly work as hard as others especially if you're a fat woman, one of the ONLY women as a matter of fact in an otherwise male dominated department. Why doesn't this stop me? LOL because I know my work ethic, I know my strength and I know my higher numbers and better quality welds. Tell me I don't look sexy in a bikini? I couldn't care less! Don't look if you don't like it, but take away my physical strength and ability to play sports, ride a bike, go hiking, or cater to the physical demands of a job that I love and my self confidence is stripped away like the Velcro seamed pants of a Chippendale's dancer on "Girls night out"!  So I think it comes down to what you value most about yourself and how much you're influenced by the opinions of others or the standards set by the media, fashion industry and popular culture. I've always pretty much danced to the beat of my own drummer and embraced my inner non conformist. 

Do you love yourself, Dave?

I dont like it.