Thanks for the replies and the support! You guys rock!

There's a BBW community? Wow! Who knew? Coulda used them in my life.

But don't let friends, family, acquaintances, anyone make you feel guilty about the choices you make for your body. You don't have to explain yourself, unless you choose to. There are other communities, like this one, who would applaud your decision to have weight-loss surgery, if that's what you choose. 

Back in the early-mid 2000's ( and probably earlier )  there were lots of chat rooms and web sites geared toward BBWS. Groups used to hold dances...there were even some cruises, I think...and a Las Vegas bash every year. I think some of that has gone by the wayside now. ( I'm no longer an active member of the community, and hadn't been for quite a while.-even before my surgery.)  I actually met my 3 best friends at a cookout geared towards local plus sized women. ( The hostess turned into my very bestest buddy for life. ) There were a bunch of people there, all plus sized women and men who appreciated ladies of the fluffy persuasion. Eight years later, I'm still friends with the women I met there. ( None of the men there were anything to write home about, but I met some seriously awesome friends there! ) 

Wow. That's amazing. Seems like a good idea to create a community like that, because it's tough being a big girl. sounds like you had a great experience.

They called you a sell out?, that's pretty fuc'd up of them. They're just being negative & judgmental which seems kinda ironic since they don't want people to do that to them. You might just have to walk away from them. If they can't understand that you're doing this for your health, then let them go.

Exactly! You're right! Just wanted to complain because I'm in shock people are being like this! Thanks for the reply. :)

I would re-think the word friend, because friends want to see your happy, healthy and feeling good about yourself.  Anyone who doesn't isn't your friend.  Never dealt with anything like this.  No one really remembers me as MO anymore, I am ten years out.

I'm wishing you so much luck rite now!! I just had rny on 12/29 and although im in a lil pain now I dont regret it at all. My highest weight was 257, @ surgery I was 235 & today one week out im 225. I heard many tell me I didnt need it and people died all tyoes of BS, Anywho I did it to get healthy and to engage with my kids, keep your confidence up hunty, your beautiful now and will be beautiful afterwards, keep your faith and congrats on starting this amazing journey!!

Thanks so much! I just love getting support from this site. I'm so glad I joined. I'm so excited for you. I can't wait to get my surgery. I'm happy to hear things are going smoothly for you. 

Way to go everyone