I lost 125 lbs, and six years later.....

I am STILL the fattest person in the room. Our company holiday party pics came back. I'm a moose. I will NEVER be normal or small.

That's the spirit!  

WoW! Why so hard on yourself. You lost a lot of weight! That's something to be proud of 

Whoa, I'm not sure how to reply to your post.  I'm hoping you needed a place to vent and posted to reach for support.

Don't be so hard on yourself.  Six years later, you still have your WLS and can choose to use it.  Whether you've regained or never got down to where you wanted to be, you can always get back on track.

 hugs! it must be hard to have come so far and still feel that the "finish line" is miles away. I've seen you pictures... you have completely transformed, truly. a lot of us will never love how we look in pictures, or see ourselves how others do- but take a deep breath and remember you've lost the equivalent of a whole person!! that's a fact- and its amazing. you've done great, and the best is yet to come.

Just frustrating some times. How come I can't be one of the little size 8ers or 125 pounders? After a near-death experience, skin removal, and over 100 lb. weight loss, I'm still obese.

I have had the same thoughts myself, so I truly DO understand the frustration.

The unfortunate fact is that not all of us were built to be a single digit clothing size (even if we had NO excess weight) any more than we were all built to wear a size 6 shoe.

If you truly want to drop more weight, you probably can. I didn't notice what type of surgery you had (or if your profile even said), but even after we have weight-loss surgery losing weight is still a matter of burning more calories than we ingest. Some of us still have our metabolism is working against us, of course, but it can be done.

For right now, though, is there something you can do that will make you feel better about your great accomplishment of losing over 100 pounds?  (Did you save any of your pre-op clothes to compare to the clothes you wear now?? That frequently gives people a much needed mental boost.) Can you try to focus on how much better you look and physically feel now than you did 100+ pounds ago... On how much more you are able to do now than you could then... On any medical problems that have lessons or disappeared since you've lost weight?  Can you do something nice for yourself like a manicure, pedicure, massage, maybe buy some snugly pajamas or a soft, plush robe?

Please don't let comparisons to others rob you of the joy and sense of accomplishment in the weight that you have lost and how far you've come. 

Lora

Who's to say what "normal" is anymore.  Some of us are just born to be big.  Be it, big boned or built like a brick s...house so my mom would tell me.   Imagine how boring life would be if we were all cookie cutter and exactly the same.  (although I would enjoy not having to fight the fat mountain).  I have a son- in law who is short and 135 pounds fully dress with boots on and a full belly.  I notice people comment frequently on his small stature.  I'm sure he would change if he could. He actually takes a lot of torment for his small size.  If they talk about my size they don't say it to my face.  Lucky us we can get thinner.  I know even before surgery I will always be as you say a "moose" I'm tall and very big boned. The good lord made me this way and I've learned to deal with it.

I'm sorry you are having a tough time. The holidays seem to do that to me, too.

Be kind to yourself.

Its been 8 years since my RNY. I've gained a lot weight back. I'm still obese. I started attending Overeaters Anonymous (OA)  meetings. Its helped much mire that anything I've done. Its a life saver. I've made many new friends. Try it.