does anyone go to support group meetings post op?
You might check out Overeaters Anonymous for meetings in your area. There is one specifically for bariatric patients where I live.
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I think my support groups are essential, keeps you on focus. I go to the hospital one as well as one in the community that has patients from all different surgeons. Like them both for different reasons.
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YES! I'm 13 1/2 YEARS out of surgery and I still go. They are my AA meetings. They keep me on track, remind me where I came from and where I don't want to return and most importantly it helps to encourage others who are coming behind me and let them know that this is a life style change that truly entails a LIFETIME commitment.
As a support group leader in Illinois, I have found attendance sparse. It is most frustrating to me, since I prepare helpful handouts covering a wide range of issues that post ops pretty much need to deal with. When I do have a good attendance, it is great! There are pre ops going through their testing phase, those considering the surgery and eager to learn much, and the seasoned long time post ops - great exchanges occur and every leaves feeling they have learned something. But when there is no attendance, there can be no exchanges of information or learning.........
i try to go every month. i say "try" because being a single Saturday of the month if the day is not open for me at the specified noon hours, i cannot go. i think this sometimes bothers the facilitator of the meeting, but what can i do? because of my schedule making a lone Saturday support group meeting a number one priority is unrealistic for me
that said when i do attend i enjoy it. it reminds me of where i've been and how far i've come after surgery, and most of all allows me to be of service to others who are pre-op and just barely post op. i like being an example of successful wls for others, and recall when i was a pre-op and would see others at the meetings as i am now. it gave me great hope just seeing them there, and emboldened me to go forward. i hope my mere presence can do the same for others
its helpful to ME because outside the wls community not many understand it as the tool it is. and many times when speaking with other fat (i use that word, yes. its not a bad word) people trying to lose weight, if i mention it as an option, the response is often times "oh...i know someone who did that and they gained ALL their weight back." and others think its "the easy way" "can't you do it yourself" and on and on it goes. meanwhile i am standing there with a maintained 240lb weight loss thinking 'what does that have to do with me or you?' and its awful and frustrating because i know some of these people are facing a grim future and don't have to.
but at the support group meetings i get a different reaction. i stand and say my surgery date, weight loss, the changes in my life, and how great it's been and people "ooh and ahh" and faces light up. heads nod in agreement, smiles grow wide, and people have hope. they are ready for it, but like i was before surgery. still unsure and sometimes scared. so i am there to hopefully ease that a little
worst thing about my being at the meetings for the doctors and facilitator there is a good deal of vitamin talk, doctor visits, and "eating right" talk goes around the room. but part of my surgery being a complete success is i take no vitamins, haven't seen my doctor at the center for around 7 years, and am completely healthy. instead of maintenance i am a completely no maintenance patient. i like to share this not as a "do as i do" part of my story, but rather for those pre-op who are frightened at what is to come. i say "listen, i don't do anything these people say and wls has still been a great success for me. no complications, no side effects, no vitamins, no special diet. and if i can have surgery, lose weight, and change my life being a bonehead about it....you have nothing to fear being smart about it."
so hopefully they leave thinking...."wow, if it has gone so well for THAT slacker, imagine if I do everything by the book? should be ok for me, right?"
i'd say yes