Am I THAT invisible

Down almost 100 pounds and no one in my family has noticed/commented.  I see them regularly to.  Am I thee only 1 who can see the change?

First of all we want to congratulate you on you're amazing weight loss!   We see you and hear you  

Reaction from family and friends can be confusing.  Some are very supportive and excited and others are not.  Usually it can be for various reasons.  They may not know how to react to the new smaller you. If you had a family that revolved around food they may just not know how to relate to you now?  They also may be scared, scared of losing the person the knew and loved.  And to be honest some may just be mad at you and jealous.

Try talking to them and see if they have concerns and questions.  Make them feel a part of the new you.  Maybe you can even get them on board with eating and exercising with you.  Do something fun like maybe signing up for dancing, bike riding or something you can do as a family. 

Be sure and attend support group meetings and they can help you with family/friends issues.  DO NOT, let their lack or reaction stop you from being the best you can be.  

Here are some great articles that may help also:

http://www.obesityhelp.com/articles/relationships-after-weig ht-loss-surgery-for-better-or-worse

http://www.obesityhelp.com/articles/family-diet-dynamics-aft er-weight-loss-surgery

Keep us posted on how you are doing

I had to lose over 70% of my total before anyone noticed. 

I don't know how heavy you were to start, but I started at a 57 BMI and 344 lbs.  People didn't start commenting on my weight loss until I had lost nearly 85 lbs.  Truthfully, if they see you regularly and you had a lot to lose, it isn't as noticeable to them.  Also, people who love you see you and not your weight as much.  

I frankly think it's rude to comment on people's weight -- It has been very uncomfortable now that it's the topic of every conversation when people see me.  Of course, that's just my personal hang-up.  :-)

Don't worry, soon you won't be able to shut people up about it!

I'm actually happy when people don't comment - I don't want my body to be the hot topic of conversation, how awkward is that?  

If you want your body to be the topic of conversation, try starting the conversation yourself.  They might think they're being polite by not saying anything.  

I feel for ya, but some people just don't know how to react. I'm still waiting for my moms to say anything to me, but I know she is just being polite & probably won't say anything till I bring it up, that might be what your family is doing. They may not want to make the first move in bringing up your weight. 

Enjoy how YOU are feeling in your clothes and how YOU feel in a 100 pound less body.  What you think is what matters most.

I talked with colleagues and friends about this not mentioning anything.

Apparently many people feel its not politically correct to mention weight, that it may sound like they are in a lose - lose situation where they could insult the person losing weight by saying some thing wrong so it doesn't sound like a compliment, giving the impression that their weight is the only thing that person is worth, or even emphasizing the old weight was not attractive.

I gave them permission to talk about  my weight and changing body shape, that I don't think it's politically incorrect.

Hope that helps.

Knowing how I have felt in the past.  When I see someone who has lost weight I try and say things like"  wow you look happy:)"  or "Look at you!"  I try and leave the weight out of it.  If they want to talk I figure they will continue the conversation or change the subject. 

Yes, it stinks. I actually prefer when people just say, 'you look good' or something of that nature. I once had in a previous weight loss go-around someone, after I told them I lost 100 pounds say, "I couldn't tell".  yes and sometimes people who see you regularly don't notice. As someone else said, the heavier you are the more it takes for people to notice.