Not telling people about surgery MEANS YOU'RE NOT READY!

I'm not sure if I will even qualify for STD. I'm out of pto for this year and was hoping to be ready for surgery by December. But if I have to wait until January I'll just use vacation. Thanks!

STD usually take a couple of weeks to kick in, so plan on your vacation time in addition to STD.  Two weeks is quite ambitious to return to full-duty, so if you're taking less than 4 weeks and find yourself tired and weak (and many do for several weeks), prepare for an explanation.  If you choose to keep your surgery a secret, do not tell ANYONE at work, for once it gets out that you had it and kept it secret - it could affect your integrity and trust by people professionally too.  This may matter one day if you plan to continue at that job.

I took 2 weeks off and was perfectly fine.  COULD have gone back at a week if it was necessary.

Very few people know I had RNY on 9/29/14. I took 1 week off work and someone told another person I was sick. I don't think my entire workplace needs to know this info. My boss and 1 close coworker know, my husband (obviously), my parents and a a few close friends. That is it, and I don't plan on ever telling them about it. I wouldn't announce a boob job or lipo to them or any non elective surgery. It's not their business. I say do what makes you feel

comfortable

ams that nurse can take her opinion elsewhere! Good luck on your journey! 

Glad to know I'm not alone. Thanks!

I haven't even told my sister because I don't want to deal with her reaction. I'm sure she will notice when she sees me for Christmas, but I don't know if I am going to say anything about it. 

I totally felt the same way you do. I told no one at work......Im not close to them so I didn't want to share. However on the paper work I am sure someone in the office might figure it out by looking at my disability papers, but there is that HIPPA Law. Do what makes YOU HAPPY!

Best Wishes,

Carol

Sounds like this nurse overstepped to me. Your boundaries for sharing private information, especially health info, are up to you. Don't let her make you second guess yourself.

I'm being selective in who I tell. My daughter & sister know, but I'm not telling my adopted Mom. She has a history of verbally sabotaging me when I'm dieting, gloating when I fail, again, she's competitive & has failed every diet she's tried. I also don't share everything with her because she tells anyone she talks to about all my business.

There are some catty, nosey, judgmental and gossipy people who work with me so my reasons are similar. I like the word "selective". I have my best friends, my mom an d  siblings as my support network which is plenty for me!

 I told one of my bosses (I work for 4 brothers) and 3 of my close workmates-I figured eventually they would have told others especially since I work for a family. Yet, even two months later and over 45 lbs down they have yet to tell anyone-not that I would care now. No one would have ever known because I had outpatient surgery and only took two days off. (my job is sedentary and partially isolated)  One brother always teased me about my weight although he is grossly over weight himself also but since I was the only one heavier than him he always would make jokes about me. He thinks I am still on my diet which first was liquids and then small portions-he still does not know about the sleeve surgery. He just thinks I am eating less. Now he has noticed I've lost weight and is about 20 lbs away from him and he is getting very nervous saying that I will mess up as I have always done and sabotaged myself as I have always done. (he's right about my past) His brothers are secretly waiting for me to get under his weight because he is so negative, critical, cynical and a know it all. The one I've told and my other workmates have yet to tell him or anyone else that I had surgery and says they will not until after I get under his weight-and even then they may not.

So really, it is your business who/whom you tell. My brothers and sisters who live far away do not know yet. I want to surprise them! Maybe if your nurse saw some of these responses she will back off! Wish you well!