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I'm going to go ahead and apologize on behalf of humanity for the snipey and rude comments above. You come to a place like this looking for actual help and reassurance, not to be mocked.
That said, I think 42 lbs in 11 weeks is an amazing loss. This journey comes with LOTS of bumps. It sounds like you may be in the middle of a stall or a plateau, which is normal for weight loss with or without surgery. My advice to you is to keep doing what you're doing. Hit your nutritional goals (get enough protein and water, keep your carbs low, watch out for excess sodium), stay active and keep working out, and trust yourself. I know it's scary when you feel like you're trying so hard and it isn't working, but I promise you the scale will get moving again if you stick to your plan.
I hope this helps. I sincerely wish you all the best, and hope that this forum can be a safe space for you (and for all of us). Support is KEY to success on this journey.
Please speak and apologize only for yourself. I don't think anyone died and made you in charge of apologies,just sayin.
First, please turn off the CAPSLOCK. Second, sralls happen. Do you really and truly think you are making poor progress?
In WLS, as with life, realistic expectations help. You are freaking out and you don't need to. Relax. You and your surgery are working.
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My advice is throw your scale away. Weight ONLY at your doctor's office. You'll still lose weight at the same rate whether you weigh or not, but if you don't know you're not losing a pound a day you won't worry abut it.
Now---if you really do want/need advice, fill out your profile. Before we can really give you any actual HELP, we need to know which form of WLS you had, what your beginning excess weight was, if you lost a lot of weight just before surgery, and what you're eating---and you need to be VERY SPECIFIC about this. Not "Oh, I eat eggs and cheese and Frosted Flakes" but "For breakfast I eat one egg and two slices of bacon, for mid-morning snack I eat one string cheese, for lunch I eat..." Actual calories and number of grams of carbs, protein, and fats would help, too.
And remember, when you try to compare your weight loss to others' weight loss, it's not the number of pounds that counts, it's the per centage of excess weight lost. If you started out with 100 pounds to lose, you've lost 42%. Someone who started out with 200 pounds to lose would only have lost 21%, even if they also lost 42 pounds.
I totally understand where you are coming from. I'm 10 weeks out and 38 pounds down. Honestly I thought I would have last 60 pound by now. I tend to compare my weight loss to others and get a little discouraged. Maybe that's something you do as well. If I lost this much weight previous I would have been ecstatic. I think you are doing great. One step at a time!!
I totally understand where you are coming from. I'm 10 weeks out and 38 pounds down. Honestly I thought I would have last 60 pound by now. I tend to compare my weight loss to others and get a little discouraged. Maybe that's something you do as well. If I lost this much weight previous I would have been ecstatic. I think you are doing great. One step at a time!!
THIS is the problem. The expectation, not the person.
Personally, I think surgeons should educate patients a little more extensively on what to anticipate as far as rate of weight loss post-op. An average of six pounds per week is just not a realistic expectation or goal over time. However, if no one ever gives you information regarding a more accurate goal how would one be expected to know what to aim for?
We all want to get to our goal so fast that we focus on what someone here on OH once called a "box on the floor with numbers" and allow that box to dictate our feelings of worth and accomplishment. There is so much more to this journey.
