MY version of "Support is . . . ": what I will do for you
I'm only talking about how so many people kept on & on over her comment of just be nice, like why would 1 persons interpretation of what they think is rude or not generate so many responses? I just saw her view as just that, her view. What she saw as rude, is just that, what she saw. Even if she gave a name or a specific post, the interpretation of that post of what is considered rude will vary, but it's only that, nothing more.
For me if I thought someone was being rude I'd either call them out on it, or try to see it from their point of view, or bru**** off & keep it moving. It seemed that almost everyone was caught up in their point of view, & defending it, they couldn't see anyone else's & round & round everyone went. I didn't take her post as a I must post in a certain way or I'm rude if I don't, but some people saw it as just that. Everyone has an opinion, I just didn't think her post was that big a deal.
No one surgery is better than the other, what works for one may not work for another.
T-Rebel
Ah, but she didn't tell anyone what she thought was rude. She just made a general accusation of rudeness and meanness and then told everyone that they should be nicer. Be nicer than WHAT?!? Nicer than whatever her arbitrary definition is...
Lora
14 years out; 190 pounds lost, 165 pound loss maintained
You don't drown by falling in the water. You drown by staying there.
Yes, that's true, what's nice, what's rude, I don't know anymore. It's just too bad that whoever she is referring to will never know if they were being rude or not. That person/persons will never be able to give their defense.
No one surgery is better than the other, what works for one may not work for another. T-Rebel
Or have the chance to improve :/
VSG with Dr. Salameh - 3/13/2014
Diagnosed with Binge Eating Disorder and started Vyvanse - 7/22/2016
Reconstructive Surgeries with Dr. Michaels - 6/5/2017 (LBL & brachioplasty), 8/14/2017 (UBL & mastopexy), 11/6/2017 (medial leg lift)
Age 42 Height 5'4" HW 319 (1/3/2014) SW 293 (3/13/2014) CW 149 (7/16/2017)
Next Goal 145 - normal BMI | Total Weight Lost 170
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Actually, people can post whatever they want. But I'm just saying flat-out that I won't stand by, hold hands and sing "Kumbaya" if you do something dangerous to yourself. I'll call you on it.
Where I can lend honest help, I will.
Those can't or won't deal with that are welcome to not read my posts or block me completely.
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C'mon you guys...Bette wrote a fantastic post on how she would show her support and it has turned into another Amber post. That post is over, let's give Bette her due applause.
All posts that I make on this site, any forum, are a result in my having experience and caring for anyone having to go through life as an obese person. If you have medical issues, please see your doctor for medical advice.
Karen
Doesn't bother me.
If anyone knows how a thread can take a left turn, it's Bette - one of the joys of being around here a while!
Bette knows we love her 
and respect her contribution to the forum - both in support and entertainment but just in case she doesn't, here's a group hug and Bette is slap bang in the middle 
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