annoyed

not really sure what to do now..... I originally was very content with my choice in a surgeon but then I started interacting with the nurse and she seemed kind of cold with me but I thought maybe I just feel like she is coming off that way so I just continued doing what I needed to so I could get my stuff done by 6 months. I actually had to email her several times with no answer to my question and then go up there just to get a rude answer 

but then I go for the psych eval and they insist I see theres which is like 40 mins from my house and we dont have a very good car but its only once so I agree I go and she tells me she needs to see me again and I need to bring a letter from my current psychologist and psychiatrist and I gave her their info.

now when I met with this woman she was really rude asked me my current weight and I told her then she responded with "OMG" in complete and utter shock that I was so fat.

i ignored it and continued the session then I tell her I have PCOS she says oh well that explains it.

she asks me if I smoke pot I tell her no which is 100% the truth and she says " you know they will drug test you right? so I hope your not"

so then we scheduled an appt and I tried contacting my current therapist about a letter and never heard back from her so yesterday the psychologist for the surgeon calls and says I havent heard back from your therapist and I said neither have I and I tried but she hasnt got back with me she says well lets just cancel this appt and we will reschedule when I hear back. then she says " and I hope your really trying"

um excuse me i couldnt believe she said that too me. so I see my current who tells me that they cant write anything because they are a county run program but she will call her and tell her im not crazy and hopefully that will help,

so then I think back to being told me they will urine test me to see if I am still smoking. originally i figured i will just quit since I know it is in the best interest of my health but I am beginning to feel like I am being treated like I have a Probation Officer instead of a surgeon and now im not sure what to do in september It will be 6 months I am pretty much done with everything I dont want to wait 12 months or 6 more. am I overreacting? do they do this to everyone? should I go find a new surgeon or should I just suck it up?

It's frustrating - all the hoops we have to jump through in order to have surgery.  But, jump we must.  I was very fortunate; everyone I dealt with at my Weight Center was wonderful.  All very supportive and understanding.  If I were you, I wouldn't change surgeons at this point.  Hopefully, your therapist will contact the surgeon's office and get that issue taken care of - although it seems strange that she can't "write anything".  Things always take longer than we expect them to - don't get discouraged.  I thought it would take six months to get to my surgery date - it ended up taking eight months.  Unless immovable objects are put in front of you that you can't get around, I'd stick with your surgeon.

I read your profile and have to congratulate you for going for WLS now.  I waited much longer than I should have - causing great damage to my body.  At your young age, you should do great!  I'm sending you a BIG THUMBS UP!   

I would find a new surgeon. I refuse to be treated like you have been by your medical team. They're supposed to be professionals. 

If you do leave the practice, I recommend explaining why if you feel up to it. 

I agree with Mary. Sure, this psych is a total ***** but just get it over with and you never have to see her again. When you've got your surgery, write scathing letters describing your treatment.  Post negative reviews, but don't let it mess up your path to getting this fine sooner than later. 

Oh, and the nicotine testing is actually reasonable.  Smoking has so many serious risks with WLS - both during the surgery and anesthesiologically and with complications afterwards.   So, your surgeon isn't a jerk to check for compliance on that.  

ty everyone for your responses. I am very excited to have surgery but I never realized how complicated the process would be and being a full time student just makes this more of a hassle. It is actually an anabasine test not nicotine and they said I can still use my ecig but when I googled it there is a lot of stuff saying it will show up positive with an ecig I use organic 100% vg liquid for mine so I am not sure about that which hopefully isnt a problem. =) 

the reviews for my surgeon are amazing which is why I am wondering if it is only me with the problem but I mean I think I am pretty easy to get along with. I think I am going to try to stick with this because I am so close and see if the psychologist will approve it I hope.

the current psych office I go to is run by the county and they refuse to write letters for anything. my therapist who said she would call is fantastic and she has WLS a few months ago but the downfall is that they are not allowed to write letters unless it is court ordered that they have too 

Many medical offices share the 'God complex' that some surgeons think.  Some look down their noses at the obese where they should be more compassionate and understanding (or else go to another type of practice if they're incapable).  Either way, to avoid any further delays, suck it up and keep pushing.

Let your surgeon know before you leave and give them a chance to make it right, if they don't find another surgeon. This is going to be your support, second family and if you don't feel you can depend and lean on them it's not going to work for you.

Keep us posted!

talked to the psychologist today told her my therapist would talk to her but that they wont write letters. she told me that I need to go find a new therapist and psychiatrist and when I told her but I like mine she told me well I know but this is what I am requiring or I wont approve it I was so mad if she was in front of me I may have choked her (not really and I swear i am mentally stable lol) anyway I am going to have my mom call tm and deal with her because I wont stick up for myself and my mom will let her have it and needs too and I think I just may be looking elsewhere cuz I have had it with this moron

Is this for insurance approval?  If so, I'd say screw her and go to your OWN. If the office is requiring it, talk to them. I was to go for an endoscopy beforehand and went with their recommended GI doctor. During my 'consult' in which all we discussed was if I was made fun of as a child, and the man creepily rubbed my stomach back and forth, I called the office and said there was NO WAY I would receive treatment from him. 

This is YOUR body and YOUR mind. If you don't like the way you're being treated, say something about it.