Big Mouths!!!!!ahhhh!!!!

So, I decided I was not going to tell a lot of people I had surgery. The decision was personal and I don't want to have to explain myself all the time. I told my mom and my three sisters. Well, yesterday I get a random Facebook message from my ex husband whom I divorced 4 years ago and don't even talk to anymore. "Congrats on your surgery." WTF!? I am so mad I could scream. Somebody told him! No one will admit it. I didn't even know any of them still associated with him! I am so mad I could scream! There's a rat in the family and I don't know who to believe! They are all making me feel like a jerk for accusing, but I told NOBODY else, and they were not supposed to either! ********!

Well that stinks... not cool when you can't trust people you should be able to trust implicitly. Though it could have been as innocent as saying something on Facebook... "my sis is having that surgery too" sort of thing to a friend of a friend. I am amazed at the stuff I see in my news-feed about people's family members... I doubt many of them know a stranger knows about their rehab stints, cheating spouses, illnesses, vacations including dates (hello criminals have at it.) LOL

Silver lining... lesson learned.

Now that the ice is broken, send your ex a personal message thank you and ask him who told him about the surgery.

He says it was my Mom, but she swears up and down she hasn't talked to him in almost a year. And my ex has a lying problem.

Let it go ..... You tell anyone and you basically tell everyone .. Because people talk.

You have so much else to focus on .... Really,howmuchenergy do you want to give to this situation.

It is done, you can't unring a bell.

Focus on your healing, your recovery, your plan and your WEightloss.

Oh yeah, I know you're pissed! If I were you I would politely ask the ex-husband who told him. That will be the only way you will find out. 

Well that sucks.  But at least you know you can't trust those people with private information in the future.  

Boundaries.  Anyone who has an ex KNOWS how big this break in trust really is ...    

Your mum and sisters need to know how big this betrayal is and that it will NEVER happen again!   You teach people how to treat you and if you don't make this clear, it most certainly will happen again.

My mom would have done the same thing.  She was always getting attention from my ex-boyfriends.  It was her way of making believe that they were her boyfriends.  When I still lived at home I would walk in and find them sitting in her kitchen talking to her.  This was like 50 years ago and I long ago just accepted that is how she is. 

You know now that you can't trust her.  Your ex might be a liar, but someone told him and I really believe it was your mom.

You're better than me! I wouldn't have wasted my energy giving him a reply! Especially, knowing he likes to lie! 

My ex tried to friend me on FB after 10 yrs! I wrote a long reason why I was not accepting then deleted it! Some people aren't worth the energy! Nope, not bitter, just don't want negativity in my life

You probably won't ever find out who told him! Just keep doing you! Good luck with your upcoming surgery!