relationship advice needed!

I know this is not what this forum is all about but here goes. 

I have been dating a single dad for about 10 months now.  Everything seems ok, he doesn't share his feeling much and just told me he loves me a few days ago.   But whenever he has the kids like every other weekend and a week at a time, he never calls me ever.  I get text messages only.  I feel really lonely cause he left town for two weeks with the kids,  I let him know that I would expect a call but nothing yet.  I don't think asking for a phone call is too much (I shouldn't even have to ask).  Seems like he should want to do that, and I understand about his time with the kids is their time.  I respect it, but I would like a call at night after bedtime. 

I know he came out of a nasty divorce.  His daughter is afraid of losing him.  My daughter is so happy to have other kids and a father figure around.  He comes to my house for dinner most nights say at 6:30, then leaves by 8:30 regardless of where we are or what we are doing to call his kids.  On certain nights when we were out, (like a sat when there is no school) I have asked why he didn't schedule the call earlier due to the plans we had.  Its a little frustrating.   I feel like I give more than what I get at times. 

I understand its hard dealing with a single parent, I am one!  But I think if he is considering to blend, a balance is needed.

Thanks for reading, any sincere advice is appreciated!

Do his kids know about you?  Are you sure he is single?

yes, he is single.  The kids know about me and have spent some holidays with me and my family.  They have been at my house a few times also.

Then that's really weird.  I have no idea why he can't call you when he has his kids.  I understand he wants to spend time with his kids, but a quick phone call or something?

What does he say when you ask him about it?

Does he know how you feel?

I was pretty clear about it.  I actually decided that if there is no phone call during this long visit away, game over!  I don't understand, and dating is so difficult.  After I get out of a relationship, it takes time for me to want to attempt another. 

I don't feel the need to explain more to him.  After all, he is a psychiatrist and should know how important communication is if he values the relationship.

Then it sounds like he's not willing to give more than he's giving now.  And if this isn't enough for you, then you probably need to move on.  I know that's so much easier said than done.  But you know you can't really change someone else.

I hate dating.  Sometimes I'm lonely, but dating is hard.

I agree.  Its super difficult.  Since yesterday, I found myself really upset and down about it.  I just don't want to play a game or put myself (or my child!) through it!  I wanted to eat more than usual, and earlier I made myself go to the gym to work out really hard as a distraction. 

My mom took my little girl for a couple days, otherwise, I would be distracted lol.

Anyways, thanks!  You always have valuable input!

My only question is how much time has there been since his divorce?  Do you think he wants a long term relationship with you and is he ready to move on?  I do think you need a heart-to-heart with him so he knows where you stand.  Unless you've told him you are not going to put up with this any more, he really may not know.  If you've told him exactly what you want/expect from him and he tells you up front that he can meet those expectations and doesn't, that's when you call it quits.  Best of luck to you.  It's got to be so hard to start all over again after so much disappointment.

Both of us have been divorced since 2008.  He has said several times that he does want a long term relationship and wants to remarry.   I figure it does take a time after, and everyone has their guards up after a bad experience.  Its hard being second!  I stopped dating for a very long time, cause I felt like I wouldn't be fair with the next guy due the bitterness I had.  I walked into the relationship, with almost a clean slate emotionally after almost 3 years of not dating.  It seems like we do most of our serious talks via text, which is frustrating.  My plan is, if he doesn't call during this long trip away, than I obviously do not mean much to him and I'll move on.

Thanks so much for your comment, its appreciated.  Nice to know that I'm thinking straight!  lol

Yes, but it is 2014, 6 years is a bit long to recover from a split no matter the issues involved.  In my heart, I feel you deserve better and should start looking for it.  Good luck.