surgery is approx 3 month away, should i be trying to lose weight?

My temptations and part of me says "eat what you want, because soon that aint happening!) the other part says I should take this more serious and diet now....What do you all think? I am 250 dang pounds, bigger than i have ever been, shame and guilt has become a real part of my life...I cant wait for my surgery, either late Aug or September....thanks for reading.

Did your surgeon ask you to try to lose weight?  Mine didn't tell me to, but when I'd decided to begin eating pre-op the way I would post-op (protein first, no white foods, lots of water, and exercise daily) I found I'd lost 30# before surgery, and he was quite pleased.

Ask your doctor;  in the meantime begin the journey.  If you want some pizza, have a couple of slices.  Nobody says you have to eat an entire pie.  

If your doctor does not require you to lose weight, I would focus on making healthier choices most of the time.

What is your main reason for having surgery? If it's to live a healthier lifestyle, then I would absolutely start developing those habits and making those changes now. That can only help your health and likely your long term success. 

Good luck to you!

I gave up all white foods and the Diet Coke six months before surgery.  I believe it made the transition after surgery much easier.  I still don't eat white food or drink Diet Coke.

My food cravings went away after I stopped eating sugar, rice, bread, pasta, flour and potatoes.  I just don't crave turkey, steak or green beans.

I got through all of that withdrawal and head hunger long before surgery.  Surgery then made it easy to continue what I had been doing.

I think going through all of the changes after surgery and withdrawing from carbs and caffeine would have been really hard.  I am glad I got the hard parts out of the way before surgery.

Don't sit around and wait for surgery.  Start today and get healthier every day from now on.  You don't need to feel guilt and shame.  Make it just part of the past, forgive yourself and create a new image of yourself as a slim and healthy person.

First, I think you should strongly consider seeing a therapist to help with all the feelings you're dealing with.  I started seeing one pre-op and continue seeing her now, and it's a great experience.  She really helps me sort through everything.  Shame and guilt should not be a regular part of your life!  

I started my WLS process in September.  Just the investigation process.  In January I really hunkered down with lifestyle change.  I chose to swap out "meals I eat by myself" with shakes so I had shakes for breakfast and lunch most days.  I wasn't super anal about this - I'd occasionally have a lunch or breakfast date and enjoy whatever I was eating with friends/family.  I did pay attention to portions for non-shake meals as well.

For me, this worked out really well for the two months prior to surgery that I did it.  I lost 25 pounds and, more importantly, I proved to myself that I could do it and that I did have the will power.  I had a few "last meals," notably sushi.  I gorged on sushi one night about a week before my pre-op diet started.  Heh.  But I didn't beat myself up, because I knew I was making really great dietary changes and seeing that reflected on the scale.  

And, of course, every pound you lose pre-op is one less to lose post-op.  And every life change you make pre-op is one less change you'll need to make post-op as well!  

Hello. As someone that is in the same stage as you, I would definitely consider changing the eating habits. I was asked to lose about 5 percent of my weight, which I did. But I know that the sleeve will not work for me if I continued with the same eating habits. I stopped saying "diet" a long time ago. To me it is eating healthy. I mean, if you read the nonsense on the back of the foods that we buy, its terrible. I have high BP, arthritis, mild sleep apnea(using cpap) and was pre-diabetic at one point. I am 39 years old with all this and my mother is 60 , goes to the gym and doesn't have any of these things. I am seriously embarrassed. I had to make a change with or without surgery.

 I am saying this with tears in my eyes after writing this. Work on it now and give your body its right and try to make better choices. Hope for the best

I understand your feelings. I'm six weeks post and can tell you that following the pre-op diet helped me lose 20# before surgery.  It also helped me get off some bad habits and clean my pallet.  My surgery and recovering went very well, the staff believe it was in part to following pre-op diet.

Good luck!

I didn't have a weight loss goal that I had to meet before surgery, but my clinic encouraged us to lose weight anyways, as it helps during the surgery as well as post op.  So, although you don't HAVE to, it is always a good thing.  I lost 33 lbs before surgery, but it was a personal choice. Surgeon said it definitely helps the surgery. 

I agree with A LOT of what the others have said...especially White Dove.  I started a whole new lifestyle re: food/beverage on January 1st.  I lost 63lbs by the time I had surgery on April 9th (I started a lot heavier than you, though).  I'm really glad I made those changes and had the 4 months to work on them.  I have had no problems sticking to my post-op plan and don't crave anything.  I think a large part of that was getting off of the carbs and white stuff before surgery.  You are going to have to deal with a lot after surgery....why not make eating a healthier diet second nature NOW so that you don't have to invest as much energy in that part of things THEN?

Good Luck!  :-)