Recently Lost a Best Friend Because of My Decision to Get Bariatric Surgery

Haters gonna hate. Hopefully the door hits her on the way out. 

Seriously SHE needs help. Hopefully she gets it before she drops dead of a heart attack.

Thank you so much for everyone's love and support!  I appreciate each and every comment!

I am sure she has been treating you like crap for a long time and you would make excuses for her why she does the things she does. It is very hard to lose someone.

Someone like her you do not need in your life. You will feel so much better after the surgery.I used to think it was a way out. But now I really am glad I did it.

Just remember you deserve to be treated in the right way. No one has the right to treat you badly. 

She is not your friend. A friend would support you in your decision even if she disagreed. And she would certainly want you to be healthier. She sounds so selfish. All about what SHE feels and SHE thinks. 

Also ill-informed! Cosmetic surgery???? Yrs, as if an insurance company us going to ay for that! 

I was morbidly obese for years. I have done permanent damage to my joints. I have also done damage to my heart which I am working on. I am 63 and have a new lease on life. Do this for you and your health. People who say morbidly obese are healthy are hiding their heads in the sand. Therer is nothing healthy about carring around all that weight

Your "friend" is a pretty horrible one.  You're clearly not healthy at your weight, some people can be, but you aren't.  How dare this "friend" try to bully you into making the decisions she thinks are best for you.  

For me, personally, getting WLS was the biggest acting of self love I've ever engaged in.  I did it because I love myself.  I love myself SO much, that I want to stick around for another 50 years or so.  If I actually did hate myself I wouldn't have bothered, eh?  

Your friend doesn't know the difference between self-acceptance and self-deception.  That's unfortunate .... for her, not you.

Her writing are half sad and half funny.  It's terribly sad because you can tell that no matter what she says, she really isn't ok with herself.  It's hysterically funny because she presents it as a war cry; but it is so full of misinformation, presumptions about you and your motivations and the unbelievable assertion that the world should be her way or the highway.  

Is she on medication? (Not a sarcastic question; even to a casual observer, she has issues.) 

It's difficult when friendships come to an end, especially when a person reveals herself to be someone so different than what you thought they were.

Yes, she has bipolar disorder, post-traumatic stress disorder, schizoaffective disorder, and more.  She is on medication.

Then you should know in your heart that her reaction and her response is from her various conditions and has absolutely nothing to do with you.  

She's latched onto fat acceptance with an iron grip and there is nothing rational about her beliefs or her behavior towards you.  It's sad, but trying to be friends with her is only going to hurt you.  Scrub her out of your life like she never happened.

Hi Sharon,

Is your friend obese too? I was jealous of a friend who was able to have the surgery before I was but I never blamed her for wanting to be healthy! 

As long as you have a genuine support group that you can turn to, losing one friend is unfortunate but it is not the end of the world.

I'm sorry this happened to you.

Good luck with your surgery!

Faith