So... I told my mom...

It is a shame your mother is not on board with you on having WLS surgery. But if she is going to help you post op that is a good thing as long as she is supporting and not hindering you. I have not told my mother but I plan on doing it this weekend.She may think wow look how great you are doing.I would gather information and show her that it does work.We have to change how we eat and think.

At least you knew what she was going to say to you and you were not shocked by it. 

Best Wishes to you.

I understand where you are.  My husband and I have made the choice to not tell my mother about the surgery until afterwards.  I have been doing research and have tried for the surgery for the past 15 years.  Sometimes you have just heard all you need to hear on this subject from some people.  I do applaud you in going ahead and telling her even though you knew going in that she would not be your biggest cheerleaders.  That's a hard thing to do.  Just remember that this is for your life, for your well being, for you.  

Be well and keep your chin up!  :-)

My mom was the same way.  She started spouting really incorrect information, made assumptions (like I'd be on a liquid diet forever), told me stories of all the people she knew *****gained.  In the end, with me teaching her the new information, explaining my surgery, showing her the nutritionist diet plan for post-op, and reminding her that I'd rather have the chance to be normal weight than worry about all the people who failed - she did come around.  I flew her up to be with my kids while I was in the hospital and she is totally supportive of it now - even asks if my sister would qualify for the surgery too.

Do what you have to do for yourself, and if she is receptive to hearing the current information, share it with her - otherwise - prove all her misconceptions wrong and go on to lead your new healthier life.

Good Luck!

Just chalk it up to "I got that task done".  She doesn't understand, and probably won't have any interest until she realizes that she won't be changing  your mind.

My dad was proud that I was taking charge, while my mom said she was scared to death for me, but knew I was stubborn enough that I couldn't be swayed. 

My uncle asked if I'd try diet and exercise first.  That amused the hell out of me.

Lol! I really hate that question.  "Have you tried this certain diet with this certain exercise yet?". "Yeah..for almost 15 years now...". *eye roll* That's the whole reason I'm not really interested in telling anyone else right now. I even had that argument with my husband for months before he started seeing things my way. He's completely supportive now!

My mother-in-law tried to scare me to death, but I knew it was something I had to do, and 9 years later, I am thrilled at the changes in my life as I kept the weigh off and my mother-in-law is just plain jealous.  You know better than anyone what you need to do.

Why did you tell her at all?

Glad she has not derailed you, but you need to be sure she is not sabotaging you along the way OR post-op when your hormones are raging and some folks have 'buyers remorse'.