Pregnant at 300lbs..please offer some hope,advice,experiences

anything..good or bad. My name is Shannon.I am 26 years old,300 lbs and 5'3".I post here fairly often and read the board daily.I love it here! I am in the pre-op stage trying to get RNY gastric bypass to improve my health and get down to a healthy weight.I also dream of having another child.My son is 5 years old and also longs for a sibling. I just found out by a HPT that I am pregnant.This was not planned but I feel every child is a blessing.I keep thinking God must have a plan.Just a few weeks ago I was asking everyone here to have a child while my son is still young at this weight or weight 2 years when I am post-op and down to my goal weight.There was mixed replies and my thought was wait until after WLS.I wanted to have another baby,be healthy and not have to worry so much. I also have a bicornate uterus which means I have a septum in the middle of my uterus so it makes it harder for me to concieve and make me at risk for pre-term labor,premature baby,etc.My son is a miracle..a preemie board 11 weeks early.He had a ROUGH start but by the grace of God is healthy and happy at age five. I have a lot against me..high blood pressure,high cholestrol/tryglycerides,obese,plus the thing with my uterus BUT I do want this child.I have not been to a OBGYN yet but plan on seeing one ASAP so I can see what they think of course.I don't want to endanger my life (or a babies).It would kill me to have a theraputic abortion because I do want another child and have cried many nights about not being able to concieve right now.I do know that if I can do this..it will mean bedrest for a LONG time at some point in the pregnancy. It's so much to take it and thank you if you've come this far.My main thing is how many women here have had healthy babies being a high weight like 300 lbs or being obese? I was heavy with my son..but more so now. I thank you all..and please keep me in your prayers.

Shannon, darling you will be in my prayers. Please let us know how your visit goes, and yes, this baby will be a blessing. Wishing you much happiness! Clytie

I weighed more than 300 pounds and had not been able to conceive for 15 years when I got pregnant...long before surgery. I had fibroid tumors and a tipped uterus that made things difficult, but noodle was born healthy and late...lol

My BMI was 45.4 when I had my son and 45.7 when I had my daughter. I had c-sections and we still aren't sure why (I wouldn't dialate ) but carried both to term - watched my BP closely and did frequent visits to my ob-gyn. Prayers and blessings to you both! (((HUGS)))

Hey Shannon I was big with my last child and was 34 yrs old.I was sick from the beginning.We had just put in for adoption and was blessed to fined out I was pregnant after 11 years of trying.There is 11 yrs between our kids.They said its a miracle I even got pregnant because I have PCOS.I was put on bed rest right away but still delivered my precious little girl 2 months premature.I developed gestational diabetes and my pancreas quit working and the babies took over.The risk was high for me and I never looked back.God wanted us to have that baby and he gave her to us.She is 15 now and the pride of our life along with her older brother.Know one can really make this decision but you and I will pray for you and your whole situation.They truely are gifts.Just becareful with your diet and the doctors will help you through.They can do so much now days than in earlier days.My daughter is healthy she had a rough start but fine now.All the best to you and your family.Aunt Hell

Hey, Shannon, first of all congrats!!! I am so happy for u! Secondly, God is the number 1 physcian, with Him anything is possible. I was close to 300 when I got pregnant and had some blood pressure issues, I had also been misdiagnosed for seizures years ago and while pregnant I was on Dilantin. The dr's told me that my baby, she is 3 now, might be born with defects cause of my weight and the dilantin, but she is fine, no problems what so ever besides being spoiled rotten. God gave u this baby and He will take care of u. I respect Drs abilitys, I really do, but I put all my faith in God. I know u and your baby will be fine, I have Faith in Him that u will be. I am so happy for u and I know u r happy too. Just take care and pray, thank God for the miracle He has given u. U r going to be fine and the baby too! Love and God Bless Angela

Hugs... like you said, it's all part of the plan. One of the biggest concerns for big mommas is preeclampsia and gestational diabetes... I'm sure your doctor will know best and watch you carefully. I have a family member who weighed about 350 when she conceived... 'only' gained about 30 lbs with the baby (70 with both prior!) and he was just fine. Born about 1 week early; just about on the button. Follow up closely with your doc, eat right and do some nice gentle walking and I'm sure you and your little blessing will do beautifully. Hugs -- and CONGRATULATIONS! -- k

Shannon, Yes, it is entirely possible to be 5'3" 300 pounds and have a successful pregnancy. I was there just 3 short years ago. At 303 pounds the pregnancy was less than perfect. Truthfully it was physically hard on me. The docs had suggested that I may want to consider terminating the pregnancy. I told them that was the very furthest thing from my mind. God gave this present to me and I had no intention in refusing His precious gift. I also refused to have amino done, because it would not have changed my mind had they found something. I had already lost two children 4 years prior (my precious twins at 4 months) and had no intention of losing this baby if I could do anything to stop it. I took every precaution I could take to ensure a healthy outcome for both baby and me. As the pregnancy progressed, we found that it was another twin pregnancy. But it was only a short time later that I miscarried one of the twins at 12 weeks. However, the second baby was still doing well and I was able to not only carry him to term, but actually go 2 weeks past my due date. I had to have an ultrasound done everyday the last few weeks. Throughout the pregnancy I did not gain any weight until the last month ... then I gained 30 pounds in one months time. I did post a couple of pics on my profile to show just how far my belly was extended while pregnant to help me realize just how far I have come and not to distress over the fact that my belly is not bouncing back quite like I would prefer. While my belly was HUGE, doc said that was not the norm, even for his larger patients. Obviously I had other things going on. Yes, it was a bit grueling, but oh so worth the effort. I have a beautiful, joyful blessing of a child who was the result of that pregnancy. And here I am today after my WLS down to a size 10 consistently. Congratulations on your special blessing! Should you ever need an ear/shoulder that has been there, please do not hesitate to email me. Prayers have been lifted up for you. May God continue to bless you and your family, Tammy

First, I would like to say congratulations on your pregnancy and to the fact that you already love your child. My advise is for you to see your OB-Gyn ASAP as you indicated you plan to do. You know the risks and the rewards involved in a complicated pregnancy and you sound like you are willing and able to deal with both. I will keep you, your family, and your unborn child in my prayers. Gina

congrats! I recently had a student ( I am a medical instructor ) she was 2 years post op when she got preagnant and had a lot of difficulty with dehydration and was in the hospital a lot since you want another baby and the timing is good I think your preagnancy will go much smoother before your surgery so you will postpone your surgery a little but just think how grand life will be in a few years with your beautifull children after surgery and your pregnancy you will enjoy being able to do things with your children I think your timing is perfect that way you don't have to suffer with complications from your surgery I was heavy before both of my preagnancys and everything was fine just hang in there god is looking out for you and he timed things perfectly and you will be just fine!! good luck and keep us all posted