Anyone need a B*tchFest?

 

You "old timers" know how this madness and chaos works, but for your new kids (or just people who haven't participated before) here are the B*TCHFest General Rules and Codes of Conduct:

"B*TCHFest"  is provided as a public service to those of us who have gripes and grievances but whom, for whatever reason, lack a regular forum in which to air them. You are welcome to voice any problems - large or small, important, mundane or ridiculous -  that currently have your panties wadded, your shorts frosted and your gears ground. Don't hold them in and risk future medical issues, wrinkles and/or those pesky gray hairs.

ANY and ALL issues that are plaguing you are open for you to voice; there are no "sacred cows." They say that "feelings aren't facts", so if you're feeling it, it's legit to you. NO ONE is allowed to flame a poster for something he or she writes, however commiseration is not only welcomed but encouraged. Please, no personal attacks against other OH members (at least, not by name.)

PLEASE NOTE that postings may (and probably will) contain profanity. Those possessing delicate constitutions and sensibilities may want to leave now.

I'll start you off with my own stream-of-consciousness-slash-stream-of-rage-and-frustration. I may be back for a second helping later, and you may, too!

- To the unknown guy at the gym: when you put 640 pounds of weight plates on the leg press machine take them off when you're done!

- To the numerous unknown slobs at the gym: your mom doesn't work there. Pick up after yourself. Put your used paper towels and empty water bottles in the trash instead of on the floor. Put your dumbbells back on the racks. If you were strong enough to move them, you're strong enough to put em back.

-To the unknown woman at the gym: do you REALLY need to put on so much perfume that everyone in the locker room has to leave smelling like a French *****

- (how's this for a segue?) If I hear/read/see ONE MORE person on Facebook saying how "God" gives him or her the "right" to have a gun, I'm gonna lose my **** God may give us lots of things, but the "right to bear arms" is not one of them.

- People who don't know/understand or generally don't follow the rules of the road. A flashing yellow light does NOT mean STOP. "Yield" does not mean "drive very fast" and cut off the person who does have the right of way. Oh. And learn what "the right of way" means.

Okay, I have to get back to work. YOUR TURN!

 

Great job!!! Myself, I don't let the unknown people bother me, my biggest complaint..is....get ready...MY OWN F*CKIN DAUGHTER!  She will be 30 yrs old this August, married with an 8 yr old daughter so she is gonna get hers!  This year is "our" 30/60 birthday year...I turned 60 in April, she turns 30 in August  SHE requested we have a 30/60 birthday party, WE agreed on July 4 weekend because we ALWAYS get together with the other local family members at my house to celebrate the 4th and this year, everyone was going to spend a way extended weeked from the 4th through 7th as we live on a river in the country and they can all "camp" and still have the amenities of home. SHE also asked if her husband brought down his whole pig roaster if WE would buy the pig to roast and everyone else could provide side dished.  Well, invites went out to all our local friends and family.  

Meanwhile, my mother passed away, she was 94 so it wasn't unexpected, and the funeral was in California..I live in Michigan, my daughter lives in Chicago. She couldn't come to the funeral because it was on a Thursday which just happened to coincide with HER daughter's first communion rehearsal and the daughter couldn't miss the rehearsal or the Church wouldn't allow her daughter to participate in her first communion on the following Sunday (I'm not Catholic so I have no idea but I think even GOD would allow you miss a rehearsal and still get to participate in the service in your fancy little white dress and veil because your GRANDMOTHER'S funeral is that same day out of town).  Finally after about 10 phone calls my daughter tells me she doesn't want to leave her daughter and travel 2000 miles away even though her father and other grandmother would be with her (this child has a medical issue and it required a pace maker last 12/2012).  I said, why didn't you say so in the first place that you didn't want to be away from her for 36 hrs it would have take to travel to and from and have the funeral service, I would understand that with out 10 phone calls!  All is well.

YA THINK1!?!?!?!?!?  NOooooooo, She calls me this past Sunday to tell they aren't coming for the 30/60 BECAUSE SHE JUST KNOWS one of us will say something "hurtful" to the other in regards to her not coming to the funeral and she felt like I didn't put her feelings first and tried to "guilt" her into coming to the funeral.

Now, this is the child that lives 2 hrs from me, who has called me at 2 in the morning telling me she needs me for 1 emergency or another, who I have gone into her home 1 day a week to babysit for 1 hour for more than 2 months so she and her husband could go to marriage counseling for 1 hr per week, who has asked me to leave work because her daughter's school has sent her to the hospital in an ambulance and she can't get a hold of her husband, who for one reason or another has called me because she needs me and I have always gone.  

I say this because apparently while I was dealing with my own grief over MY mother's death, and trying to keep my sister's from killing each other over funeral arrangements, I said to my daughter that "I feel like you always put (husband's name)'s family first over mine".  Because this past year, Thanksgiving, his mother was visiting, so no thanksgiving dinner together even though we didn't have OUR family dinner until the Sunday after Thanksgiving.  Christmas, call to say Merry Christmas and we are going to drive in to see you all today, to be told, we won't be home, we are going to husband's brother's house (She has said 2 yrs before "we aren't spending Christmas day anywhere but home anymore so if you want to see us, you have to come to our house").  Ok...so I say, fine, we'll drive in Saturday then, and she says CAN'T, taking husband's mother to ...... Fine.  no xmas with that part of our family I'll deal.  Then I call a week before my granddaughter's birthday, "we are going to come see you that weekend"....to be told, can't, husband's mother is taking us to florida for a week! She tells me that they have to plan their "lives" 6 months ahead of schedule" unfortunately, she doesn't tell anyone else what their plans are ahead of time.  Am I crazy or does it seem like HIS FAMILY COMES FIRST?!?!?!?!?!?!?

Mother's day, no phone call, no card, no email, no text!  Doesn't answer her phone, or return my text, I'm getting ready on Monday after to head to Chicago to see if they whole family has been murdered in their sleep because by 5 pm Monday I still hadn't heard anything and they didn't answer their cell phones. She calls laughing, saying just got back into town cuz husband surprised her by taking her camping cuz he bought a pop up trailer and they didn't have any cell coverage and HE SAID "YOUR MOM WON'T MIND THAT YOU DON'T CALL HER TILL MONDAY!"

Now, she tells me they won't come because even though SHE HAS FORGIVEN ME!!! she won't be over the hurt and can't spend that time in JULY with me.  

This is a party SHE WANTED. THIS WAS PLANNED MORE THAN 6 MONTHS AHEAD OF TIME! But good ole mom, I don't count for nothing...it's ok that she hurts me by calling not showing up to a party she asked me plan.  It's ok that she can hurt my feelings by only thinking of how her feelings were hurt when it was MY MOTHER that had passed.  

I will find out, that she got a better deal from husband's family for the 4th of July and that will be why they didn't come.  She will have gone camping with that side of her family instead of being where she planned to be 6 months ahead of time.  She will get a rude awakening when the next time at 3 in the morning she calls and this mom says go call his family to come to your rescue because you haven't been there for me 1 ******g time that I asked you to be.

 

Sorry for the rant...but I am hurt!

Wow. (((hugs))) I am sorry for your loss.

AAAAAMEN on the perfume. I walked into the locker room after my training session today to get my bag and the perfume cloud hit me. By the time I got back to my trainers office I had one of the worst migraines I have had in awhile starting, to the point where I probably shouldn't have driven home because I could not see.

Ah, I have missed this.
Ok, here goes: Friend, you asked me for a reference letter. I gave it to you. You said you would give me one. Where, pray tell, is it? I don't NEED it, but don't you think it is s matter of integrity? I sure do. Also, get off your high ******g horse.
DH: quit going behind me trying to 'improve' me. Your way is not the only way. You have been eating--and enjoying--my cooking for 20 years. Also, quit backseat driving. I do indeed know my way around town, considering we've only lived here for 9 years!
Guy in the VW riding my ass. You, sir, are a douche. Tailgating me will cause me to do one of two things: slam on my brakes and let you rearend me, or go.really.slooooow. You pick. If you are in such an all fired hurry, don't pick a quiet street in a residential neighborhood as a thoroughfare.
People who speed through elementary school zones when children are present: you should be pelted with rotten eggs and fruit.

Wow this is helpful to have.  1.  I can't stand my daughter's husband.  He is a complete asshole along with his family.  She is coming to realize this all finally.    I would  to call several members in his family and let them know what I really think of them but I am trying to keep the peace.  I cannot see how in the world she managed to find anything attractive about him.  She is my step daughter so she knew him before I came into the picture.   2.  Ok I am glad I have a job but each time I make a move the number of idiots and crazy people  I have to work with increases and the pay rate has not increased as quickly or as much as the number of idiots/crazies I have to work with.  I should get an "I have to work with idiots/crazies pay increase."    3. I am pissed at missing an A by 2 points.  2 danggone points.  And my other class my teacher went real abstract on the test questions.  How the hell do you do well on homework but suck on the test?   Slick is all I can say....she was slick with the test questions. 4. Bullies - I am sick of them.   I wish asshole people would get a life and quit trying to make other people's lives miserable.  A few kids at my child's school have encountered this nonsense.   I know the school board, state education boards, etc are sick of me fighting for kids that should not have to fight the crap - but I don't care.   I am going to fight for these kids.  I am sick of schools deciding who they should sacrifice.   Trying to educate one hard headed knuckle headed kid or let that same kid **** with 5 other kids and have them experience the bullying from that one kid.   5. Liars - When will people get a clue that when you get older, the potential to know BS when it is presented is greater?  Dang I have learned some things in life and I have gotten pretty good at knowing BS that people are trying to serve me.   I wish these type of people just not say a thing to me, instead of opening up their mouths to lie.    Save that for someone else that does not mind listening to the BS.  Thanks for the ranting opportunity.  I will now get back to the regularly scheduled program of trying to make it each day with a positive  attitude despite the fact that I don't have time  for the BS around me