I hate you guys

"I would be horrified if I gained back 30lbs. I will never allow that to happen."

Most people "here" are here because they struggle; I know I came back when I had one of those HORRIFYING regains. I decided to stay because it helps me remain conscious about my chronic illness, which is obesity. I am not cured; but I am in an active management program that doesn't involve STARVING MYSELF or drinking water flavored with lemon and nothing else all day. I have learned that I am WORTH feeding, and feeding well....not stuffing until the point of discomfort or restricting to the point of making the next binge inevitable. I am not perfect; but most days I am not CONSUMED with thoughts of eating or not eating;  no longer live in the "on a diet/off a diet" mentality; no longer harm MYSELF with food, either too much or too little. To me, THAT is the real victory.

Again, I'm sorry you struggle; I'm sorry you seem to hate fat (and fat people??) so much. I know being MO is painful and I also do not ever want to go back there again. But it seems to me from your posts that you are still in a lot of pain.  



 

I know many naturally thin women who don't have to watch what they eat. They just have a naturally fast metabolism or they have been active all of their lives and continue to be. Most of them don't usually think about what they're eating too often. I don't think anyone who has been MO or SMO, had surgery, and then got down to a regular weight will ever be able to compare themselves or their thinking to that of a person who has never been overweight. Two completely different worlds and two completely different mentalities.

Also, in my short time on this earth, I've learned to never say never.... that's just asking for it!

Don't ever ever ever give up.

As people above have suggested, figure out other options. And truly, as Heidi says, maintenance still comes down to diet and exercise.

Just don't give up- dig down deep inside and find the stuff you're made of!

 
Do what MANY of us do, go to MX.  The guy I have in mind does DS for $9500 or a sleeve for $6650.

Most of us find that if we want it badly enough, we find a way to get the money.

Heck yeah!!! Go sell that ass! Jk.... take out a loan!

if you really want this you will make it happen; I too was denied by my insurance company; so I will be a self pay; I saved some money and took out a loan for the reminder .. I don't care what I have to do without.. I will have the procedure. I am on the 3 day count down I am sleeving on friday.. and not going to Mexico.. staying in the lower 48 ...

Also, does your ins have an exclusion? Is it fully insured or self insured? Theres a difference,because I went through through the same thing,and filed an appeal, and wrote letters to the president etc. Worth a shot.If you dont have an exclusion, then I would definitely appeal. Also check into the WLSFA.org, I currently am being considered for a grant to get my surgery(still in progress), so hopefully I'll get approved for this.I will happy to assist you if you need any help or questions.

You shouldn't give up. Make sure you look into all of the options available. Have you tried appealing?

I know how frustrating it can be. I have been fighting my insurance since 2008 for surgery, and still am fighting. Insurance is the only way I will be able to get this and at times I just feel like giving up and having a good cry but I don't. I keep fighting until the end because I refuse to go down without a fight. Though, it could just be because of my stubborness.

Anyways, I wish you luck and hope that you don't give up

I guess God was smiling on me because since I posted this I have gotten a promotion which took me to Florida where my wife got a job with the local hospital and now we have insurance that covers WLS! I have begun the paperwork and seeing the pre-op doctors for psych and nutrition clearance.

It's a good thing I didn't have the surgery before, I definitely wasn't in the right frame of mind. Thank you all for your warm thoughts and words of encouragement.

Awesome news!! Good for you!!