Damn men!
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on 2/1/12 9:27 pm
on 2/1/12 9:27 pm
Thank you. I get help. I been in the hospital so many times. I go to thepry every 2 weeks. I have come a long way. My lowest weight was 80lbs. Now that is dying. I want to live. So I try. I don't say things to people I just walk away. A rude person will be rude. And I can't find anyone my age. I perfer younger men. He could have said heavy chick or overweight chick. He knows I was fat. I think I am better off single. I just want a friend.
Amy
Honestly, I don't know why you're complaining. You did nothing but get offended on someone else's behalf, and had no effect other than writing off someone you might have liked. Did she hear him say that? Was she still there when he started hitting on you and this comment came up?
First, let's not bash the fellow for judging, because hello, you just did it too. I just judged you to be a hot-tempered woman who thinks emotionally rather than logically. And he may not be attracted to his obese friend, but clearly he likes something about her or he wouldn't be friends with her. Also, she might not be into him. If you liked him, probably you were at some point attracted to his looks first, and personality second, because appearance is the first thing we see about someone. I'm not attracted to skinny men, or short men, or really, men with light hair. Don't get huffy about judging people--it happens every time you look at someone, whether you realize it or not.
Second, he gave his opinion, a statement of his preferences--clearly he prefers skinny women over more filled out women, that's fine--and you're calling him a dumbass with no appreciation for women. That's a pretty harsh judgement for his honest opinion. If he had no respect for women, he'd probably bang the girl and never talk to her again, not bring her into his circle of friends. In this case, he's not being disrespectful of women everywhere, as you imply. Was it disrespectful for him to phrase it that way? Yeah, but he had been drinking, and alcohol tends to make people more blunt, not more tactful.
Third, if you're going to get pissed every time someone says something remotely offensive about fat or obese people, you're going to be living an angry life. Want to fix that? Stand up and share that you used to be fat, and now you're comfortable where you are. Maybe this girl is comfortable with her body image and doesn't care, and if she did, she's fully capable of defending herself. She doesn't need you getting pissy and storming off ineffectively, because really, what did you accomplish? Not a thing.
First, let's not bash the fellow for judging, because hello, you just did it too. I just judged you to be a hot-tempered woman who thinks emotionally rather than logically. And he may not be attracted to his obese friend, but clearly he likes something about her or he wouldn't be friends with her. Also, she might not be into him. If you liked him, probably you were at some point attracted to his looks first, and personality second, because appearance is the first thing we see about someone. I'm not attracted to skinny men, or short men, or really, men with light hair. Don't get huffy about judging people--it happens every time you look at someone, whether you realize it or not.
Second, he gave his opinion, a statement of his preferences--clearly he prefers skinny women over more filled out women, that's fine--and you're calling him a dumbass with no appreciation for women. That's a pretty harsh judgement for his honest opinion. If he had no respect for women, he'd probably bang the girl and never talk to her again, not bring her into his circle of friends. In this case, he's not being disrespectful of women everywhere, as you imply. Was it disrespectful for him to phrase it that way? Yeah, but he had been drinking, and alcohol tends to make people more blunt, not more tactful.
Third, if you're going to get pissed every time someone says something remotely offensive about fat or obese people, you're going to be living an angry life. Want to fix that? Stand up and share that you used to be fat, and now you're comfortable where you are. Maybe this girl is comfortable with her body image and doesn't care, and if she did, she's fully capable of defending herself. She doesn't need you getting pissy and storming off ineffectively, because really, what did you accomplish? Not a thing.
339 was the weight I joined OH at. 432 is the weight I decided I needed to change my life.
Look at Demi Moore. She is gorgeous, thin and rich and she hooks up with a younger guy and got burned. Being thin and gorgeous and rich does not insure that we won't get hurt. And being fat doesn't mean we don't get the guy.
Me? I'll stick with guys my own age and who like me for who I am, not what I look like. BTW, my boyfriend doesn't like skinny girls. He made that known when we first started going out. And he has made it known that he would prefer me with more meat on my bones. I guess I could call him a dumb ass with no respect for women because he has a type he prefers. But since he is a man and not a boy he doesn't plan on breaking up with me because my appearance has changed. Good thing, too, because I heard that as we get older that happens a lot.
Me? I'll stick with guys my own age and who like me for who I am, not what I look like. BTW, my boyfriend doesn't like skinny girls. He made that known when we first started going out. And he has made it known that he would prefer me with more meat on my bones. I guess I could call him a dumb ass with no respect for women because he has a type he prefers. But since he is a man and not a boy he doesn't plan on breaking up with me because my appearance has changed. Good thing, too, because I heard that as we get older that happens a lot.
WLS 10/28/2002 Revision 7/23/2010
High Weight (2002) 240 Revision Weight (2010) 220 Current Weight 115.
size 8, life is great
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