Great post!   I have expressed similar thoughts on many occasions in the past and I'm not ashamed of them either. 

Thankfully I am socially evolved enough that I would not make crass comments about someone being overweight but it's highly unlikely I would find them attractive ...

 
Maybe find yourself someone your own age, or at least of similar maturity.

Oh wait...you did.

nevermind.

What do you mean by that?

Amy

He's young. Hopefully as he matures, he's learn to be more discreet.

But he's probably NOT going to change what he's attracted to---that's kinda hard-wired into us long before the ripe old age of 28. You might want to think about dating someone nearer your own age.

 OK, I'm 46.  You're 47, he's 28.   There's a reason I don't date men 20 years younger than I am.   Age isn't always just a number. There's a maturity level and a different way of looking at things, like at a potential mate that comes with age.  Try someone who has lived a little more of life like you have. 

No you were not wrong to get pissed but you should have called him out on being a shallow asshole! Even if it weren't for that I would certainly have nothing to do with some moron that gets drunk the first time we "hung out". He sounds like an shallow alcoholic loser. That's why he's still single!

Maria you got that right!

You should have stuck up for that poor girl, actually, instead of just leaving.

And I truly believe you didn't say anything because you don't want anyone to know you were fat because you see being fat as a failure.

What you fail to realize is that fat or thin, you not sticking up for the other girl or putting that guy in his place makes you a failure in a whole different way.

Good luck.

Well... ever hear that saying, "If you are not part of the solution, you are part of the problem?"

By staying silent and not practicing assertiveness, I think you not only did the overweight woman a dis-service, you certainly did the ignorant 28 yo guy and yourself one as well.

Life is a big laboratory to practice saying/feeling what you need to in order to stay healthy in many ways.

Please don't be ashamed of being anorexic. EDS exist all along the same spectrum. Compulsive over eating is at one end and anorexia is at the other. I've seen people switch between all of them.

It isn't surprising you didn't say anything if you are suffering from anorexia. You may not have the"tools" right now to have been able to do that.

Anorexia is a real killer. Before you hook up with any guys, it would be lifesaving to go into treatment to address the ED.

I also agree with what others have said about the age difference.

BTW, since you live above that dude, you could become suddenly passive aggressive and do a very loud dance on the floor over his head...

Good luck