Is it pathetic?

Just wondering how pathetic it is that ONE OF the biggest reason I want to lose weight is because I'm sick of being alone. I am still young, at 24... but I am not getting younger and I want to find a man to settle down with get married and have kids... It hasn't happened with the body I have now, so maybe with a new body?? lol

I love myself, I do.. I'm just sick of being alone at night. I'm 24 and never had a real relationship. I spent five long years on someone who .... ugh.. So pathetic. Anyways someone who wasn't worth it and couldn't take it to the next level. Unfortunate for me the love was only one sided.
Sometimes I feel like the biggest loser...



So I was cleared for everything today, now just waiting for a call from the surgeons office for an appointment! 

#latenightramble

No, not at all. There is nothing pathetic about that. It's a very basic human desire. Make sure to pick someone worthy of you. Good luck.

No, not at all Pathetic. We all want to be loved and have someone to love. I have seen my oldest son go through this also he is 27, and a younger coworker 25 he is walking in your shoes also. Just don't rush into a relationship and make sure it is someone who deserves you. You are worth it! Hang in there.
Get healthy 1st and it will all fall into place. Hugs and prayers.

Congrats on taking steps to improve your life and health at a young age.  I was 52 when I had surgery.  I wasted so many years.....

I think we all do this . I was with a awful man for 18 years he was a nut case i married him at 16. i guess i thought i couldnt get any better. It put me and my girls through emotional and physical hell and we still are living the scares but i thought i didnt deserve any better. Im glad your doing something now to make your self feel better Instead of putting your self though the hell i did but remember your buitiful now to i seen your picture you have no reason to feel this way about your self. I to am hoping to  have my surgey the beging of next year but i have found a man a very kind man that i love alot and he loves me. Loretta

There are so many benefits to having this surgery and , yes, one of them is that you will likely look and feel better about yourself.  So, I think that your dream to have a husband and family is a very realistic result that you might expect.

However, please choose wisely...

I would suggest that you might want to make a list of all those qualities that you are seeking in your Mr. Right, and use it as a benchmark when you begin dating.

Please don't ever settle for less than what you deserve.  Sometimes as heavy women (and men), I think we get into a mindset that we have to settle for less than what we really want because nobody else will want us...

Please believe me when I say there are worse things than being alone...

Wishing you a successful journey and an invite to the wedding!!!

No, not pathetic.  But remember, losing weight does not guarantee you'll meet someone who is worth it.  Pretty much all losing weight guarantees is that you'll be thinner.  It also makes it pretty likely you won't suffer from certain health problems, but even that is not guaranteed.  But losing weight definitely doesn't mean you'll meet someone or fall in love, doesn't mean you'll have children, doesn't mean you'll get a great job, doesn't mean people will like you better or treat you any different, etc.  Many of us feel that our surgeries have made our lives better, but it's definitely not guaranteed.

I know this is going to sound... silly...BUT:  You've got to learn to love yourself FIRST.  No one is going to bother with you until you can show it.  It's a confidence thing -- and no amount of weight loss will fix that.

Please know that BEFORE you go into this.

And what if you look in the mirror and hate what you see, how do you trick yourself into loving your 300lb body, and how do you fool others into loving what you don't love yourself.  The love yourself **** is just a cliche it doesn't work in reality if you don't really love or even like or even be able to tolerate what you hate.  Thats life.

Heidi,

I fully understand what your saying. I loved who I was as a person but hated my body...well the fat specifically. I didn't want anyone to love me as a fat person because I was determined to get the weight off one way or another and always be who I knew I was. As we know you can't be exactly who you are if your fat. And I knew if someone tried to love me fat, once I was in the body I knew I should have it would all end anyway. I won't play with peoples hearts like that.