Hiding to eat Before Wls~ Hiding to Eat After Wls..Does it Ever Stop?!

You know how it is..I was always hiding   from others when i wanted to eat something unhealthy and lots of it ,Pre Op  ( Many of us did it ) ~~ Still Having to hide  when I Eat  P O.. I eat  often ...maybe 2 , 3 hours after already eating  something. Heck I've eaten  1 hour after eating  too. Must of been those times after eating Chineese food..
 
Difference now is I eat alot less at a time . AND better choices 90 percent of the time..I have  lost another 20 lbs. in 6 months ..Still working on another 20 lbs then i quit...My Fiance' makes me feel like i am still a Pig even now at a healthy BMI which is 25 or 24 currently, and feeling better about my weight.. always commenting how i eat all day long in a negative tone..the more i hang around him the more i want to eat  though.. I may consider a time out so i can work harder to lose that last 20 lbs..this is important to me..I ride horses now  ( they are his) and want to be in more shape. Yes, he is a healthy man.. One thing i have learned is when i eat  often my moods stableize all day long, when he dosent eat  for 6 to 8 sometimes even longer his moods flucuate in a negative way..

I dont want to HIDE    when I eat,, .......chances are if i feel comfortable when i eat to enjoy the taste , and stay with my healthier choices,I will not regain, I have been very proud of myself for not regaining..I make wonderful healthy recipes now. love my black bean brownies and pumpkin  muffins.etc. etc............Are you still hiding  when you eat ?   P O?  ..I dont want to Hide   NO MORE.....Peace........Wendy..................

In your post, you said : "My Fiance' makes me feel like i am still a Pig even now at a healthy BMI which is 25 or 24 currently, and feeling better about my weight.. always commenting how i eat all day long in a negative tone..the more i hang around him the more i want to eat though.. I may consider a time out so i can work harder to lose that last 20 lbs..this is important to me." 
Excuse me, that's called verbal abuse.  If he's doing this to you know, what's going to happen after you're married.  It's only going to get worse.  He's being controlling and manipulative.  I would also warn you that, if he doesn't eat 6-8 hours or longer and has mood swings, that should be a sigh to get out.  He should be on his best behavior not pulling this crap.  Peace will come when he starts treating you as a beautiful articulate women that you are, not having to hide food.

 Your post strikes home with me, as a co worker just mentioned to me yesterday that they've been wondering how I stay so slim, since I seem to be eating all the time. I just laughed, and said it must be the calories burned through my chewing, but it did make me more conscious of what I was doing for the rest of the day. In the end, I think we have to say, "The heck with what some one else thinks." (although I might phrase it a little stronger in my head! ;)        and eat as often as we need to.  If we're eating healthy, nutritious food, eating every 2-3 hours is ok, 'cause we aren't, as you said, eating the large amounts we used to.  Other people don't need to understand the process. I hope your fiance can get his act together and stop focussing on what you're eating so much. Good Luck!

So you feel you have to hide to eat due to your fiance's verbal and emotional abuse.  Why are you planning to marry him when he is abusive?

I eat every couple hours too.  Sometimes every three hours, sometimes a little closer.  That's how I get enough protein and calories and it makes me feel better and prevents my blood sugar from dropping a lot.  I guess you could try telling him that you are eating in accordance with your doctor's and dietician's advice and that you do not want him to comment on what or when you eat anymore.  I doubt that will help much, abuser's don't just stop being abusive because you tell them you do not want to be abused anymore.  But you can try it.

Educate him.  Tell your fiance that you HAVE to eat small frequent meals in order to keep your blood sugar stabilized.  

Let him know in no uncertain terms that  his criticism is unwelcome and definitely not useful.  

If he's not willing to knock it off, you might want to re-think being with this guy.

I am revoking your privilege to use emoticons. You have abused it to the fullest. I couldn't even read your post. I will go off of your tittle and wish you support and strength to get over this. Maybe some therapy would help you.

((((((((())))))))))) . I am never NOT amazed at Ur bravery , sincerity , willingness to face the " facts " rather than highly EDITED versions head on ..beautiful horseback Grrrrl

Of course Ur fiance sounds a bit controlling and possibly a bit ( the a word ) but I'm gonna take a chance and say he's probably trying to HELP U in a mannish and heavy - handed way ....

Obviously U must see a lot in him or U never would have agreed to marry him , right ? So he IS the kind hearted , devoted , thoroughly loving Prince U deserve ...

I would try to explain to him ( and show him articles ) about blood sugar swings and hypoglycemia post RNY and why its important we actually ..well.. graze . ( shock )


I cant eat but a few bites at a sitting so grazing works GREAT for me . And yes post RNY over two years im STILL toning and losing very gradually . So grazing ( provided in my case i ts high fiber and fat free ) WORKS along with copious MOVEMENT .

I can't wait to get my own horse ! ( clearing the land for a brand new barn right NOW !!! )

my fairy Godmother truly HAS arrived!

Would I have DARED think even a mere YEAR ago that a HOTT ,handsome , tall and studly man would actually not just Support me but offer me his name and hand permanently ? That he would give me my dream house ( in my name a swell as his ) as a wedding gift ?!! NEVER !!!

I am SO grateful to God fo introducing me to a kind hearted good devoted hardworking and loving man .... and to renewed self esteem, valuing myself and what i have to offer ... and just gosh darn BEAUTY after I lot the weight - outer beauty to match the compassionate INSIDES I always knew I had .

thats my next plan is to educate him a little better. I didnt mean for this to sound like he is an a**..he's got many good qualitites about himself, he's actually the best man i have had in over 25 years, and every couple is not perfect.. we dont fight much, its this one topic that i want to resolve asap.. thanks for all your support....

I don't mean to give you a hard time, I really don't.  But you plan to educate him?  He needs to be educate about the fact that he shouldn't make negative comments towards you all day long?

You're right, every couple is not perfect.  In fact, I don't think anyone is.  I'm glad you don't fight much.  But if he's making negative comments about what you eat all day long, the only reason you aren't fighting about it is because you don't speak up.  You just take it.  And you shouldn't have to live that way.

Oy! If he's the best dude you've had, I'd hate to see the bummers... Don't you deserve better?