I ate what!!!
On September 24, 2011 at 9:47 AM Pacific Time, Elizabeth N. wrote:
You're never going to be able to truly shield yourself or your children from foods you want to label as "bad." The only thing you can change for yourself is what you have in your house and put in your mouth.
The only thing you can teach your children is that choices have consequences and they need to be armed with the information they need (age appropriate and progressively taught over time) to make intelligent choices.
It is a normal human thing to enjoy tasty food. Food and sex are meant to be pleasurable. It's a LOT harder to limit food than it is to limit sex for most of us :-). So of course it's a struggle at times, and at times we give in.
IMO it's a far better plan to have the pleasure of food as a regular part of life, in intelligent, informed ways.
Some foods lead to negative consequences. I have a DS and simple carbs can make me miserable (not to mention those around me). One of my bugaboo foods is Jelly Belly jelly beans. Well, okay, Starburst jelly beans too. *g* If I try to plan to never eat them again, I PROMISE you a pigout will happen eventually.
So instead of labeling them evil and gone from my life, when a craving comes, I stop and think about it. How much gas do I want to have? Can I afford some gas in the next xyz time frame? Where's the outer limit on consumption versus hideous pain?
Depending on the answers to those questions, I might or might not get some jelly beans right then. And I get a SMALL portion, not an economy sized bag that will call my name from the pantry at home. I eat mindfully and enjoy every single individual piece. MMMMMM YUM YUM YUM. Craving all done.
If I will be in a situation where a fart is unacceptable, then I have to consume the proper foods.
Nothing (except fast food milkshakes and soft serve ice cream, which are just not worth the agony) is off limits permanently. This is how a normal relationship with food works.
But, really, no soft serve? I could survive without jelly beans, but don't take away my vanilla soft serve!
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On September 24, 2011 at 12:55 PM Pacific Time, Elizabeth N. wrote:
Most soft serve is da debbil, unfortunately. I can eat part of a peanut buster parfait at DQ, but I'm mostly focusing on the hot fudge and peanuts when I do. Absolutely NONE allowed from any of the other fast food places I've tried.
Damn! Now I'm craving ice cream and I don't even have any ice cream sandwiches in my freezer since I had to save them all from Hurricane Irene.
Time to call the BF....
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The question is not whether he supports you (who cares?) but what you can do to remove yourself from the situation if you can't set a limit on him bringing crap food to your table.
Finally, you can't blame him for your actions but you can, and should, hold him accountable for his. His behavior is hostile to your health and well being. Period.
things will get better as you get better
tee
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Hi Tee!
You are absolutely right! I do have to hold myself accountable for my actions and bad choices. I have since let him know he may not bring anymore food over because of my poor choices. He said he wouldn't and if he did it would be healthy. We will see. I'm sure he'll ask first in the future. lol
Thanks for your support!
You are absolutely right! I do have to hold myself accountable for my actions and bad choices. I have since let him know he may not bring anymore food over because of my poor choices. He said he wouldn't and if he did it would be healthy. We will see. I'm sure he'll ask first in the future. lol
Thanks for your support!
"Forget past mistakes. Forget failures. Forget everything except what you're going to do now and do it." William Duran
I find it very rude of your husband to come over with food he knows you are trying to avoid. Even if he brought the food for the kids. Try asking him not to bring food over when he visits. If he still does, then don't answer the door. I know that may sound rude, but he really needs to show a little more respect!
Do you see the glass as half empty or half full? I say, what difference does it make--I paid for a full glass,so either way I am getting jipped!!!
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on 9/24/11 6:42 am
on 9/24/11 6:42 am
Susan, separation is hard . Now think about what you wrote...."Every time he comes around I seem to make bad food choices " Emotional eating is a WITCH ! (PG version!) Susan, be good to you, you see the patten , That's GREAT in it self ! It was Protein, could be worse! It wasn't a bag of Oreos! Right? Susan, I do wish you well. Please don't beat your self up, When we beat our self's up, some of us can " self soothe" by making more "poor food" choices( bag of Oreo's) . Bad spiral! Stand tall.. every day Susan you are working toward a better you and a better life! Life is one day at a time ! Knowing what the problem is and wanting to change it ... is most of the battle! Girl, sounds like you got that figured Out! :)
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