I ate what!!!

susanraywilliams
on 9/23/11 2:37 pm

I am soooo mad at myself! My husband (we're seperated) came over today and walked in eating McDonald's! Then he thought I was unbelievable because I said something about him doing it in front of the 3 kids. Later he came back over with fried chicken. I had eaten a salad w/no dressing and grilled chicken. I just wanted a taste of it so I pulled the skin off of a piece. The next thing I know, I'm eating the skin I pulled off plus another piece of fried chicken. Everytime he comes around I seem to make bad food choices. I can't really blame him for my actions, but it doesn't feel like he's supporting me....I guess.

AnneGG
on 9/23/11 3:04 pm

RNY on 07/15/10

Nope, doesn't sound like he's supporting you! Does that have anything to do with why you are separated?

Forgive yourself and climb back on the horse!

"What the caterpillar calls the end of the world, the master calls the butterfly." Richard Bach

"Support fosters your growth. If you are getting enough of the right support, you will experience a major transformation in yourself. You will discover a sense of empowerment and peace you have never before experienced. You will come to believe you can overcome your challenges and find some joy in this world." Katie Jay

susanraywilliams
on 9/24/11 9:54 am

VSG on 10/11/11

I'm back on the horse! Thanks!! And btw...it probably does have alot to do with why we are seperated... such a shame. Thanks again!

goodkel
on 9/23/11 5:09 pm

DS on 08/20/07

If you aren't on a strict pre-op diet, you shouldn't beat yourself up over a small indulgence. Just don't do it again tomorrow.

But, this was good practice. It will be impossible to avoid people eating fast food, office pizza parties, or family/friend parties with food that would be an unwise choice for you. The rest of the world will still eat candy bars, cookies, and chips, maybe in front of you.

YOU are the one who has changed and it is unreasonable to expect the whole world to change with you. Brace yourself for this.

But, if your husband knows you've been struggling with this, forget "unsupportive" he was being a dick.

Hang in there!

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susanraywilliams
on 9/24/11 10:00 am

VSG on 10/11/11

I have to lose 33 lbs before surgery. I only have 3 lbs to go. I don't expect the rest of the world to change. That would be a rediculous expectation. I just have to find the strength within. I don't want to have this surgery and then mess it all up because I have no self control. It's a big, big lifestyle change! Thanks for your support!

Janice B.
on 9/23/11 7:46 pm - Misawa-chi, Japan

RNY on 03/04/08

Oh lord, separation is hard hard hard .... and he is demonstrating why the separation may be a good idea. What a lack of respect for you. Breaks my heart. I see you haven't had your surgery yet, so consider who and how you are going to have meaningful support for yourself in this journey. The surgery is great, but you need to be able to change and there is a lot of other stuff going on.

Now, to the short term. It was chicken and a moment. Let it go. Forgive yourself and make a mental note for how to handle it differently next time he comes around with inappropriate food for the children.

You can do this. You are worth it.

Janice

Life is too short to eat vanilla ice cream and dance with boring men.

HW: 305/SW: 289/CW: 129

susanraywilliams
on 9/24/11 10:09 am

VSG on 10/11/11

Thanks for the support! Yes, it was a moment and one I don't want to have too many of in the future!! I have already told him no more bringing bad food over here. I thought at first he supported me but, I'm seeing more and more things now that indicate he doesn't. And that's ok, some how it make me feel stronger. Thanks Janice!

Winnie_the_Pooh
on 9/23/11 10:10 pm

RNY on 06/08/11

Sounds like he is not only unsupportive but maybe trying to set you up for failure. Not necessarily the best qualities in a mate.

Winnie

(deactivated member)
on 9/23/11 11:39 pm, edited 9/23/11 11:41 pm - Califreakinfornia , CA

1. Be proud of yourself for having the courage to admit your bad food choices.

2. It sounds like your husband is hell bent on sabotaging your weight loss...
NOW ARE YOU GONNA LET HIM WIN, or are you going to gather your inner strength and use his assholiness to empower yourself and kick some ass ?

YOU GO AND KICK SOME ASS OR WE WILL HAPPILY KICK YOURS.....